(Closed) Destination Wedding – who pays for what?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

1. Bridesmaid or Best Man plane ticket to Vancouver – Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you have the money to do it

2. Bridesmaid or Best Man room in vancouver – Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you have the money to do it then you would need to pay for at least the night of the rehearsal and the night of the wedding

3. Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses – Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you want to offer to pay for it

4. Bridesmaid or Best Man shoes – Bridesmaid or Best Man unless you want to offer to pay for it

5. Bridesmaid or Best Man make up – you if you want something specific like a makeup artist to do her makeup; otherwise she can do her own makeup

6. rehearsal dinner – with a destination wedding you generally pay for everyone unless the guest list is huge (30+) then you could limit it to the bridal party and immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings.)

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Bear in mind that if your Bridesmaid or Best Man cannot afford to pay for something and you really want her there, then you will need to shell out money for whatever it is that you need for her to have in order to be your bridesmaid.  That may include her dress, shoes, plane tickets, hotel, food, etc…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I totally agree with what beachbride1216 said.

Do your Bridesmaid or Best Man know you’re planning on a DW?  That is a LOT of extra expense for them and they would probably need to take extra time off of work too.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am having a Destination Wedding also and am trying to pay for as much as I can for all of my girls. There is no way I can pay for their air travel and hotel, but I have worked to negotiate a great rate for the hotel and managed to get some discounts for air travel. I will be paying for their dresses, shoes, hair, and makeup, as well as the rehersal dinner (which may just end up becoming a welcome dinner.)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sunrisepassion:  We are having a destination wedding but ours is driveable distance (12 hours to the beach) so my Bridesmaid or Best Man are driving. They are paying their way for that. They booked a condo together to save on costs and we got them the condos 15% discount to use. Also, I paid for their bridesmaid dresses. They are wearing whatever shoes they want. Also, I am paying for their makeup but they’re paying for their hair.
My Fiance parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. At a destination wedding, everyone invited to the wedding is invited to the rehearsal dinner. That is etiquette and what we are doing, even though we are expecting around 60 people. You can choose whatever you would like to do though.

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sunrisepassion:  I think my total gift was around $300 per girl (I have 3 BM). I started purchasing items slowly last fall so the expense wasn’t so large. My opinion, is that, they’re taking off work & shelling out quite a bit of cash to be a part of my wedding day so I wanted to show my appreciation by purchasing something a little nicer than a traditional gift. I bought them Kate Spade cosmetic clutches, Kate Spade silver bangle, their jewelry for the day (which is completely wearable again), and a cute personalized tumbler (from etsy).

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If you paid for everything for your BMs to attend your destination wedding, I think they would be okay with a card saying thank you as a gift.  If they pay for everything to attend it, then I would say to buy them nicer (i.e. more expensive) gifts to thank them.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sunrisepassion:  You’re welcome. We decided to go with a smaller wedding party than we normally would have so we could afford to splurge on them. Maybe thats a possiblity if you haven’t already asked people to be in your wedding?
Oh, and you’re only two weeks in….there will be A LOT of financial surprises in your planning 😉 Just wait!!

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sunrisepassion:  Yes. I knew that I would be spending a decent amount on each  bridesmaid – and Fiance on his groomsmen – so we picked a small bridal party. We invited 130 and 60 are attending.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My bridesmaids are paying for dress, shoes, plane tix (no one that I know of is getting pro hair or makeup).

We’re providing inn accomodations for 3 nights for them + SO. 

We’re inviting anyone who is traveling plus family to Rehearsal Dinner…I think our count is 38.  And our wedding count is 50…so it’s pretty darn close to everyone!

We did pick up the tab for 2 bridesmaid dresses and 1 very expensive plane ticket for the Maid/Matron of Honor who is traveling to CA from France.  She couldn’t afford to come otherwise.

And we paid for 1 groomsmen suit and even though most are semi-local we are also providing lodging for the groomsmen for 2 nights + their SO.

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