Destination Wedding Woes

posted 4 months ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Why is she letting her family dictate her behavior?

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Ugh.. that sucks. Where are you guys going? We are doing ours in Maya Riviera in Jan 2021. Regardless of how unsafe other parts of the country is, the tourist hotspots should be just fine, especially if you stay on the resort and only leave via resort-affiliated tour operators to do any excursions. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m sorry to hear that. We had a Destination Wedding in Playa Del Carmen in February and it was AMAZING. It sucks that your friend won’t go because of her family, but you’re going to have the best time. I guarantee it!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

sboom :   puppylover12 :  we honeymooned in riveria maya in August this year, was amazing! If you get the chance go to coco bongos! Looks amazing, we tried to go but my hubby was ill and had to miss it but watch some on YouTube! Our hotel neighbours and a few others went and had an amazing night! Also the excusion to Sian ka’an was so worth it!and you go to the purest blue water that’s chest height and can get some instagram worthy pics!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

puppylover12 :  Are you marrying at a resort? Or will guests be expected to find accommodations on their own, travel about the area, etc? If the latter, I do have a bit more understanding about people having security concerns. I’m not sure I would be comfortable travelling off-resort in an area I’m unfamiliar with in Mexico.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

If you’re having a destination wedding at a resort, you’ll have to get used to many weird excuses from people who can’t come. this is because most people are just not comfortable saying it outright: “We don’t want to spend X dollars to attend your wedding”.

We know that it is ‘cheaper’ to get married at an all-inclusive resort or the like, but the cost is passed down to the guests. One of my friends got married at an AI resort in Mexico, and a lot of people declined using all sorts of reason like security, Zika, etc. The resort they picked was $250 per person, per night (not by room), and had a 3 night minimum. Plenty of people who cited security concerns also told me they balked at the idea of spending $1-2k on someone else’s wedding, and I also declined.

It’s unfortunate that this girl was one of your bridesmaids and had agreed to be part of it. I would guess she wasn’t expecting the total cost run up. Regardless of how much money you think your friends make, its always a bad idea to assume they want to pay X to attend one day.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Your friend may be blaming her family, but she clearly made her own decision. Perhaps her family brought up things she had not thought of and she considers them legitimate concerns. And the travel is expensive, even if you paid the same for the wedding. Add the cost, the time off work, the security concerns and it perhaps just not being her idea of a vacation location she would want, and I can understand why she might decline. Ultimately, you have to expect a LOT of declines with a destination wedding. Presumably you are having your wedding there because the location meant more to you than the convenience of your guests. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

SMA is so incredibly safe. Much safer than the resort towns in Mexico (hell, I felt safer there than in most of the US). It’s been named the best destination in the world by Travel & Leisure two years in a row. You should send everybody that cover story.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

p.s. you are going to have the most amazing wedding photos. 

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