(Closed) Destination Wedding Woes… ADVICE PLEASE!

posted 9 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1919 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Is he not willing to travel anywhere? Not sure where you live, but what if you went to Florida or California. Could still have a beach wedding but in the US?

Post # 4
20 posts

I understand exactly how you feel! I’m planning a friend’s wedding and her mom doesn’t want to go. Honestly just like I told my friend, its your wedding…do what’s going to make you happy! Its all about what you and your man wants. Because in the long run, you don’t want to have any regrets…..I know we want to please everyone but sometimes it gets to the point where there is nothing you can do. Don’t sacrafice your dream wedding if you don’t have to….its a once in a lifetime opportunity for most of us….I’d say go with it hun! I hope your fiance’s father comes around but….. Plan that fabulous wedding with the man of your dreams in the Caribbean!!!! :o) I know it can be stressful!!! Trust me!! But go with your heart’s desire. Good luck hun and congrats to you. I hope it gets better for you!!

Post # 5
11 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was going to say the same thing as PuntaCanaBride… could you possibly plan a beach wedding in Florida, California, Hawaii? There are some beautiful beaches in the states.  Or what about Puerto Rico? When my fiance and I went there, our phones worked great, no roaming charges, don’t need a passport, etc. The beaches were beautiful and I felt like we were in the Caribbean, but it’s a US territory so you can tell him it technically isn’t leaving the country.

What I’ve learned from wedding planning is, no matter what you do, someone will be annoyed by what you’ve decided to do, especially if you’re planning a destination wedding. It’s hard when family and friends aren’t supportive of it, but I think it happens to everyone. You’ve got to do what will make you and your fiance happy. I’m sure it’s really hard that it’s a parent who is being difficult, because at least for us, parents and siblings were pretty much the only people on our “people we must have at our wedding” list. I would try talking to him again, explaining how important it is for him to be a part of your day, but also explain that it isn’t really fair for him to dictate how your celebrate your day. See if he has a second in command at his business that could help him field calls, and assure him that he will have cell service. Hopefully he’ll come around, because I think he would always regret not attending his child’s wedding.

Good luck!

Post # 6
3352 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got married in Hawaii last week, and I’d say including all the airfare, accommodations, reception dinner and ceremony, I spent under $10k (but I had a very small wedding – only 11 guests). It’s possible ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow thats terrible Im sorry you are going through that. You should look into reosrts that offer 3 and 4 day stays, there are LOTS of them. You guys and all your guests could have a full week (or whatever length you want to stay) and the father in law can come on his own for the 3 or 4 days. If he cant find someone to watch the business for 3 days for his own sons wedding well then shame on him! I am also going away to Jamaica and we had a couple people that were upset with us (not that my grandma was upset but she is unable to travel I am very sad that she cant be at my wedding but a beach wedding is what we wanted and what we’d dreamed of and nothing or no one was going to stop us) you shouldt have to sacrifice your dream wedding because he’s not willing to travel, its very unfair of him to put you in that position. I hope maybe the 3 day thing works for him (maybe its just the typical week long vacation he has stuck in his head and thats what hes unwilling to compromise on)  I hope you can all be happy and enjoy the big day!

Post # 8
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013


My first thought was maybe theres another reason for refusing to go. Is he definitely not afraid of flying (or something similar) Is there a possibility that hes having financial issues – so either its difficult to pay for the ticket, or the business is in trouble so hes trying to keep it afloat. Under normal circumstances i can’t imagine anyone not able to leave a business for a few days?

To be honest i’d say it depends on your fiance – is it a dealbreaker for him to get married without his dad there

also if the father doesnt want to travel at all – i dont htink planning a beach wedding in US would help would it? as it would require travel?

Post # 9
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Get married where YOU want. He’s using the business thing as an excuse – I own a business too, but there are ways of getting coverage if you need to be away for a few days. I’m getting married in the Bahamas in July and will be gone a week. I’ll find a person who can cover for me. No one is a slave to a business these days – the world is too connected by technology. If he really feels he can’t possibly be away, he can always come for a day and fly home. If you got married in country would he be answering his work phone at the wedding?!?

Post # 11
2 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

Im kind of in the same situation with my dad and father in law right now. They are cattle farmers and dont want to leave the farm during planiting season. (we are to get married the end of April next year in Cuba.) They say that theres too much going on the week that we picked. My dad has offered to host (and pay for) our wedding here in Canada on his farm. Me and my fiance have a baby girl and we had talked before getting engaged that a destination wedding was suited well for us, mostly due to finances. Anyways, I talked to my mom and she said that we should just plan our wedding to be the way that we want it. As much as he refuses and says at this point that he doesnt want to go to Cuba, he will be there. No parent in the right mind would ever miss their childs wedding over something so silly as business. There are some things in life that we only get one chance at. Make it what you want. If he doesnt come, then he doesnt deserve to share in this very special day with you and your fiance. Best of luck and I hope it gets better!

Post # 13
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

1) If your fiance is ok with out his father there, then problem solved.

2) Where in FL did you look? I’m planning a wedding for 60 in the Pensacola (Navarre) area for under $5000. And there is no DIY involved. Feel free to PM me for details. There are very few places where you will get charged $12 for a drink in FL (mainly Miami). 

3) Have you considered a cruise ship wedding? These often leave from around the country and you can get married in the US before going on your honeymoon. 


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