(Closed) Destination weddings

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I think that depends on how far away it is and your costs to attend, as what many people use to decide on giving an additional gift or not. In my case, I’d also give a gift.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Darling Husband and I had a Destination Wedding in Florida.  Most of our guests gave us a monetary gift and some did not.  DH and I didn’t ‘expect’ gifts from anyone.  I think it’s all based on what you can afford.    That said, Darling Husband and I will be attending a Destination Wedding in the Florida Keys in a couple weeks; we will be giving a gift, as well.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

depends on how far the travel is. Mine is going to be out of town for everyone, I am not expecting anything from those who have had to purchase a airfair…. honestly.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

This might be bitchy or needy- but yes, I would expect a gift. It’s like a birthday- you should at least give something. Even if it is $10 to their favorite restaurant. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My wedding is in Europe, so people from my side will be spending at least 1200-1500 on airfare alone, not to mention hotels, food, etc. I have absolutely no expectations of gifts from people who are already spending a ton to see me – their presence is enough, especially considering most of my family can’t attend anyways.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If it was me if I attend a Destination Wedding it means they are obviously pretty close to me so I would still bring a gift.

Cost of the trip will likely determine how $$$ the gift is. But I would still bring something even if it’s small. That’s just me though.

@Au Jardin:

Why can’t someone I know get married in Europe!!! I would so go because it’ll be a great excuse to go back! hahah

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@regberadaisy: Lol! Yeah, I think my FI’s grandmas are a little dissapointed we aren’t doing it in the States….these adorable French women wanted to take a vacation to Vegas and gamble. True story. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As someone having a Destination Wedding, I would HOPE that people would give us SOMETHING, but honestly don’t expect much because they are paying to travel to an all-inlcusive, some need to get passports, etc.  It was something Fiance and I considered when planning but the fact is even if you have a wedding at home some people will still think their “presence” is gift enough (not trying to start a debate on gift ettiqutte just stating a fact) so we decided to go for the wedding we actually wanted and could have as opposed to throwing a wedding we didn’t want in the hopes of getting presents.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would say bring something small and thoughtful if you can. We are having a Destination Wedding and while people are coming to Myrtle Beach, there is no requirement that they attend if they can’t afford it. (We undersdtand). When I have been invited to weddings that have cost a lot and I have a tight budget, I usually bring something I put more thought than money into. A photo album with pictures of the couple that I have or even something handmade. ETSY is a great site for stuff like that. It doesn’t have to be a blender or something big… small and thoughful is ok too.

 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are having a Destination Wedding as well. I appreciate the ones that are spending the time and money to join us. I wouldn’t be hurt is there were no gifts but I do think it would be nice. If you can give even a card with a gift cert. that would be nice 🙂 Have fun at the wedding!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m having a Destination Wedding in Ireland, so I know people will be spending a lot on airfare. I’m actually just thrilled that people from Canada are coming, so no, I don’t expect a gift as well. I’d be happy with just a card. But knowing my family (very few even said anything when we got engaged) I wouldn’t be surprised if they didn’t come and didn’t send a card either.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We had a Destination Wedding and were just happy with everyone’s presence!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had a Destination Wedding and totally understood that many could not afford a gift given the cost of attending.  But I have to admit, it felt like a slap in the face to not even get a card.  If you can’t afford a gift, I would at least give them a card.  I also found it very comforting when guests actually thanked US for giving them a reason to take such a great trip!  I think a note of thanks like that in a card could go a long way in place of a gift!

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