(Closed) Destination Weddings – When should save the dates be sent?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: When should Save the Dates be sent for a destination wedding?
    Over a year : (4 votes)
    9 %
    Around a year : (26 votes)
    58 %
    Around 10 months : (8 votes)
    18 %
    Around 9 months : (7 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Pixienickie:  I have seriously thrown etiquette to the wind, so I understand the sentiment. 🙂

    I sent mine a year in advance…I figure this gives people ample time to save if they genuinely want to be there. I am not paying anything for my guests – I wish I could, but it’s not in the budget (meaning airfare or lodging – though I will try to plan some group activities and meals at our expense). I figure you are asking them to spend likely around the ballpark of $1000 to be there with basic expenses, so it only seems fair to give them enough time to prepare…even $100/month is a lot for some people to save. 

    Although you didn’t ask…I’ll add that I am also requesting that rsvps be in 4 months before the wedding. I will be lenient with people who I know are really trying to make it, but don’t know if it will be in their budget…but I think that 4 months out, most people will know whether or not they will be able to afford, or get time off, for a vacation.  


    Post # 4
    6341 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Pixienickie:  As a guest I’d like to know 12-13 months in advance, depending on when and where it was. This is because we take a long-haul trip every summer, and usually book 13 months out; meaning if we were told about the wedding after we booked we probably wouldn’t be able to attend. 

    Post # 6
    12247 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d want to get the STD about a year out, and the invite 3-6 months out!

    Post # 7
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Pixienickie:  our wedding is October 2014 and we are sending them out end of jan- people will get early feb. ( before people start getting back their tax returns and before they make tons of vacation plans for the year)

    Post # 8
    3026 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    I’m getting married in July 2014. I hurried and got them out about a month ago. I did it electronically and kept it just about as simple as you can possibly imagine. 

    Post # 9
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    we sent 6 months in advance..and everything seems to work fine so far..nobody made other plans yet..

    Post # 10
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We just sent ours out 9.5 months in advance. I was initially nervous about not doing the year-out thing, since not only is it a “destination” (in the continental US, but in resort town in a state where nobody invited lives) wedding, it’s also on a holiday weekend. 

    I would suggest having your wedding website fully filled out and ready to go when you send out the Save-The-Date Cards. We had our airport/travel info, room blocks, etc. all listed. People appreciated getting all the deets up front.

    Post # 11
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We sent save-the-dates 9 months out and invitations 4 months before the wedding. If I was a guest, I would want to get the STD at least 6-8 months before the date, preferably sooner, especially if it’s a holiday weekend.



    Post # 12
    4412 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    As a guest, I’d love a notice of 12 months. Destination Wedding can be expensive and tough to schedule with work. My cousin got married in June and had a Destination Wedding. We had 2 1/2 MONTHS notice…it was really hard to save money that quickly. My Fiance and I got engaged in November 2012 (a few days after she met her now husband), they became engaged in March 2013, and because of some military date changes moved the wedding to June. It was at a very expensive resort (though very pretty) in Florida at the height of wedding season. While it was fun, it was so hard to spend that money on such short notice, especially as we were saving for our own wedding.

    Post # 13
    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @galaxygray12:  +1

    STD’s went out 9mths in advance and had website info on them. Website has all the details around destination, travel packages, travel agent info, etc. Planning on sending invites 5-6mths in advance with an RSVP deadline of 6 weeks before our wedding date. 

    Post # 14
    881 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Pixienickie:  as a guest I would want 9 months or more so i can ask for the time off and start saving money. I think six months is too short notice for a destination

    Post # 15
    1589 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Pixienickie:  my brother didn’t send Save-The-Date Cards and still had 28/50 people attend their Destination Wedding. He sent the invites earlier I think.

    Post # 16
    4436 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Pixienickie:  I think at least 9 months is a reasonable amount of time. We actually didn’t send any as ours was a small immediate family only Destination Wedding.


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