(Closed) Determining order of your BMs/GM HELP!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Pick the order YOU want! It’s your day! I’m lining my girls up how I want and putting them with guys that are taller than them so they look good together.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Maybe you could compromise and put married couples that are in the bridal party together and then those that don’t have a spouse in the wedding party get put together by height? It’s really hard to make everyone happy, I know! In reality though they should care about your happiness and shouldn’t be stressing you out over the little details just because they’re worried about who Future Sister-In-Law will walk with for less than a minute! Some people are just so darn selfish! Sorry girl 🙁

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just one thought–at my cousin’s wedding the men walked in first and the bridesmaids came down the isle one by one (I assume in the order my cousin was closest to them because it definitely had nothing to do with height).  Then, during the recessional, the BMs and GMs who were together (one engaged, two married) left together and the other were matched up somehow.  It was cute to see the other couples match up to each other and follow the bride and groom out.  It might at least be a compromise you could think about!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve seen some weddings where you’re not supposed to pair up couples, but who knows? You should just do what you want and not feel like you have to explain why to anyone.

Mine will factor in height in addition to who I’m closest to because I have to also think about who Fiance wants closest to him and what are their height. I have a couple tall girls and don’t want them walking with anyone shorter, so exceptions will be made.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

do the order you want to do.  listen to no one else.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

you could always just make the excuse that you want to do height order, because otherwise it will look silly.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am doing what Katiebug brought up. We won’t be married when we first walk in, so it’ll kind of be symbolism. They’ll walk in alone and when we walk out together, then they’ll be paired up by the way they were standing beside us. Matron of Honor then Maid of Honor then Bridesmaids by height.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Do what you want! I think it’s really silly to “have to” have married/engaged couples walk together. It’s what, maybe 20 seconds of their lives? They can deal with walking with someone else.

My BMs will walk in by themselves, out with a Groomsmen. My sister and her husband are both in the wedding, but since she’s Maid/Matron of Honor she’ll walk out with the best man, who isn’t her husband, and she could not care less!!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh and the order I am doing at the beginning is: Future Sister-In-Law (not that close), good friend, and then Maid/Matron of Honor (sister). My sister will be standing closest to me, Future Sister-In-Law furthest.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

My Maid/Matron of Honor and his Bridesmaid or Best Man will be standing closest to us; everyone else will be in height order. For the walk down the aisle I think people will live not walking next to their spouses, and you certainly don’t otherwise want to put people in order of the closeness of your relationship to them because that is just mean. 😉

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Pick the order you want! We did it by height. My Maid/Matron of Honor is acutally the shortest so we just went up in height from their and matched the groomsmen the same way. Except my sister, who is 6′, gets to walk with my 2 year old son! Little off in height there!

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