(Closed) devastated

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011


You’re getting married! *repeat* and relax.

I can understand the frustration with you Bridesmaid or Best Man.. especially given that weddings are planned WAY in advance and she should’ve given her notice for time off LONG time ago… BUT maybe it’s that being in the party requires more time off than just getting off a little early to attend…

I actually had this happen with my SISTER (moh) b/c her company had JUST been bought out and she lives oot.. she didn’t think she’d be able to make it for the rehearsal b/c of the time.. which I find out the WEEK OF  THE WEDDING.

BUT it all got worked out and I still married the man of my dreams! and that’s all that matters.

Don’t worry about what other people may or may not think!!!.. They don’t matter when it comes to things like how many and who’s up there… just enjoy those that ARE there with you and enjoy the day for what it REALLY is… you marrying your FH

Goodluck girl!

Post # 4
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am so sorry – this is defintely stress you don’t need right now! I know how you feel; my Fiance has 2/3 of our guest list, so we can’t really have “sides”. However, the only advice I can give is: remember, the only people who matter are you and your fiance. Everyone has a different definition and requirement for friends. No one will judge you – everyone there will just be excited and honored that they can share in your special day!

Post # 5
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That sucks, sorry you are going through that. I was thinking maybe she would be able to come to the wedding by going to work but leaving early? Being in the wedding party would require the whole day off, but if she were to just work half day (this is assuming it’s daylight shift she works)

But you are getting married! The imporant thing is you and your Fiance and no one else πŸ™‚

Post # 6
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That sucks, on top of all the usual stress of planning a wedding! Honestly, I don’t think a single person at your wedding is going to be thinking that having a smaller bridal party means you have no friends. I’ve seen uneven bridal parties lots of times and thought nothing of it. And 6 and 3 will look really nice because there the girls can walk down with a guy on each arm. Try to focus on the happiness – you are getting married, its going to be beautiful, and you will feel so loved on your day!

Post # 7
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@saddestbride: ummmm…. if she’s trying to “find” a way to come but can’t get off work, pictures would be kind obvious that she lied to her employers and she’d probably end up fired.

So, that’s probably why she can come to the wedding a guest (incognito so to speak) but not be in the wedding party.  One she can avoid being in photos (as a guest) the other she can’t (as a member of the wedding party).

It sucks, but, that’s life.  πŸ™  Lots of hugs!!!!!  and sorry you’re being stuck with this situation. πŸ™

Post # 10
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@saddestbride: awwww, lots of hugs sent your way!  

I’m sorry she’s being flakey on you. πŸ™  Seems that problem is an epidemic lately.  

I say this because one friend I know was dumped by her boyfriend before Irene hit, another girl’s boyfriend who lives 20mins from her couldn’t bother checking up on her or answering texts about if HE was alright when Irene hit, and one of my step-son’s best friends has pretty much gone off the deep-end and their friendship is basically dead in the water.

So, poor choices that hurt others seem to be an epidemic right now.  πŸ™  Hopefully she’ll at least come to the wedding and will feel bad for flaking out on you.


Either way, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this!  (((((HUGS)))))

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