(Closed) Devastated…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 92
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I hate to say this but wedding planning can bring out both the best and worst in people. I’ve had numerous breakdowns to my fiance about his expectations vs. mine (he also comes from an Italian family and his parents had a really lavish wedding). We try to compromise over what we can’t always agree on…it’s such an important thing to do. If you can’t get compromise with this then when will you get it in your actual marriage? 

I get how these families can be, but the line has to be drawn somewhere. You don’t deserve all the guilt trips. 

Post # 93
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@mrssrm:  “spineless, demanding child of a man…” “overbearing, entitled, controlling mother”…  How did you get all that from an internet forum?  You don’t even know these people.


Post # 95
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago

If Future Mother-In-Law & Future Father-In-Law aren’t paying, how about turning a deaf ear to them and making the final arrangements with only your parents with you?  I’m excluding your fiance, too, because it seems like he’s an entitled anger monster that isn’t grasping the reality that YOUR PARENTS ARE PAYING FOR THE WEDDING.  His family gets no demands.  If they want poutine at midnight, they best pay for it.  And no, that woud not be a LOAN.

The best part of this whole situation is that YOU have all the power.  Put your foot down.  If you can’t make your fiance see reason, then make decisions without him and make sure you’re looking forward to your wedding day.  Good luck!

Post # 96
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Toronto, Ontario


i hate men sometimes

well use the money your parents contributed on things you want, and tell him if hes insisting on something then his side should pitch in too because so far you’re way over your budget and you shouldn’t be getting rid of only things that you want so he can have everything he wants. not fair. you should compromise!


before we were engaged i told my fi that i want all or nothing and if all is not in our budget then i want to elope

push came to shove im trying to plan a wedding and he’s in shock that things cost money *facepalm* i had to fight for my wedding bands and thank god my best friends dad is a jeweler and she also helped me add some money for it because he assumed i can just get a ring for 50 bucks

he keep saying why don’t we go to one of those big banquet style restaraunts (multiple parties happening, live entertainment good food, bring your own booze) and him and his friends can get wasted :((((

i said im not sitting there in my dress on my wedding day next to a table where someone’s bday party is passed out in their plates or fighting, requesting their own music etc

he does not want a photographer, limo, etc basically he just wants a party

and his family is also not giving any money, he thinks my parents should pay while they already gave us money as our engagement gift and they’re paying for my tuition

Post # 97
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Toronto, Ontario

in your parents place i would want my money back bcause they’re giving it to you so you can have what YOU want.

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