(Closed) Devastated…

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
1998 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@monet11:  First of all, many *hugs* your way! I think banking his sperm is a really good idea. I know it feels like your lives are falling apart while everyone else lives normally but it’s too early to despair. It will be hard and painful but I’m sure your Darling Husband can kick cancer’s ass! He’s young and strong and you’ll be there to help and support him. Before you know it, he’ll be cancer-free and you’ll be singing lullabies to your first baby. 

My father was diagnosed with chronic myeloid leukemia 9.5 years ago. He’ll be on medication for the rest of his life but he’s still alive and living normally apart from taking a pill every morning. Cancer is not a death sentence! 

I know you must still be in shock now so just take your time. Grieve, cry, punch something, have a pity party, but then get up, smile and never give up hope

Post # 18
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am so so so sorry.  I have no experience in that department, but I wish you both the best.  I also wanted to echo a few other posters, you should most definitely bank his sperm.  Even if you don’t end up needing it, you have it just in case.

Prayers and loads of positive energy to you and your husband.

Post # 19
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

Really sorry to hear this but I have faith you will kick this in the butt. A (male) friend got married and 14 mths later he was diagnosed with cancer at 31. Within weeks the stupid b### of ‘wife’ left him & he moved back in with his parents to be taken cared of. He’s been cancer free for 6 months & loving life.

despite his marital issues he stored his goodies. I’d suggest that you wait to ttc after treatment so you can be there for him 100% – he WILL need you.

wishing you all the best !!



Post # 20
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

So sorry to hear you are going through this. He’s really young, which is a good thing. I think it would be wise to bank his sperm, absolutely positively wise! Also, depending on the cancer, he might get lucky with the type of chemo. There are different kinds, some are terrible on the body and some that are very strong while relatively mild on the body. Wishing both of you well through this process.

Post # 21
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t even know what to say right now, but I wanted to say SOMETHING! I am so sorry to hear that you and your husband are going through this. I am sending you multiple virtual hugs. I agree that I think it is a wise idea to bank your husbands sperm, there is nothing wrong with having a back-up plan just in case the chemo does in fact affect his fertility. Be strong for him, he will need it, but also lean on your family and friends for support because you are going to need it too <3

Post # 22
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would definitely bank his sperm. What kind of cancer does he have?

I am a cancer survivor and my particular treatment is not one of the ones that affects fertility most of the time. 

There is a chart somewhere so you can see what the chances are of it affecting his fertility. But I think especially in the case of a male, I’d just go ahead and bank either way. 

Post # 24
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@monet11:  Exactly! One is all you need πŸ™‚ I actually have a very close friend of mine who I work with. She was diagnosed on August 20 with Lymphoma. She announced today that her bloodwork is back to normal and has already gained 6 pounds back. Be optimistic! A positive attitude can make all the difference, and 29 is so young! He’s got this, and so do you! I hope your future babies find you when you are both ready to take them in πŸ™‚

Post # 25
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@monet11:  I am sending prayers and good thoughts your way. So sorry you are going through this.

Post # 27
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am very sorry to hear that. I hope he gets better soon. He is only 29 so should be able to recover fairly quickly.

Yes, bank the sperm and hold off the TTC this month. Just like a PP said that you don’t want the added stress and distractions that will bring. Though he may not say it but hubby needs you 100% right now.

Post # 28
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@monet11:  One is all you need! I’m hoping his treatment goes well and you both will be feeling great soon! I can’t imagine how scary all this must be, my heart totally goes out to you both.

Post # 29
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

One of my friend’s husband had very serious lymphoma, requiring multiple bone marrow transplants, but not only is he in remission now, they just got pregnant with baby #2! My thoughts are with you and your Darling Husband. πŸ™‚

Post # 30
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m air sorry to hear this. I know exactly you are going through. I PM’d you in case you need any more support. 


He is lucky to have you 

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