- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Thanks again for your input. I have my dating profile hidden for now as like Bellenga said, I think I just need to really focus on my healing for now. On the bright side, I’m down six pounds now so far since exbf & I broke up. I still have a longs ways to my goal weight, but I know I can get there if I just keep working at it.
I’m still continuing with the whole no contact thing. I still miss exbf alot, but I’m just getting to the point where it’s like if he doesn’t know by now that he wants to marry me, why would I even want to be with him? So, here’s a bit of an update for you all:
For starters, prior to Saturday, I hadn’t heard from him at all since Monday night & I was starting to think maybe I was never going to hear from him again.
However, he called me once on Saturday and just leave a real casual sounding “Hey, just calling to say hi” type message.
DD and I had a nice time with my mom Saturday night and yesterday (had a sleepover at her house on Saturday). I think it was good for me (well for both of us really) to get away for a few days this weekend. When we returned home around 5:00 PM yesterday, the phone was ringing just as we were walking in. I looked at the caller ID and saw that it was exbf calling, and for that particular call he didn’t bother leaving a message.
However, he had also tried calling me twice earlier in the day. Here is what the messages he left me yesterday said:
“Hi (CLBB). It’s me. I actually wanted to talk to you a little bit. I don’t know whether we could talk through email or whether you just want to talk on the phone, but I did have a couple of questions so. Okay? Hope you and (DD) are doing well. So, I would like to talk to you though. Okay. Miss you. Bye”.
“Hello. You can call me back when you get some free time please. I just had…I don’t know…I just had a question. Okay. Bye”.
On both messages he sounded nervous, and on the first message there were a few places where it almost sounded like he was maybe either crying or had maybe just finished crying right before he called me.
“Hi. Call me back tonight if you can. So, you called me like a week and a halfago and you wanted to tell me about your new job, and it seems like you wantedto talk to me then. So, I just wanted…I just had one thing that I wanted totalk to you about. Okay. Bye”.
As I mentioned before to you guys, I did try calling him about a week and halfago (in a moment of weakness)to tell him about my new job. However, his voicemail picked up and I didn’t bother leaving a message. BUT…I did send him twotext messages right after I had tried to call him including one about my newjob. So, that’s what he’s referring to when he talks about me calling him aweek and a half ago.
He also tried calling me again shortly before 9:00 last night, but he didn’t leave a message that time.
I think he’s maybe finally starting to get it that I’m no longer willing to settle for whatever crumbs he’s willing to throw my way, and so now it seems like he’s starting to get pretty nervous.