(Closed) Devastated – Groom saw me in my dress and didn't like it :(

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

The dress looks pretty form fitting, so I’m wondering if it just needs to be altered? My best friend said she didn’t really like her dress until the seamstress took it in at her hips so maybe that will fix your issue. Does he know how much gowns cost and that you can’t really return it or resell it for what you paid? Pretty inconsiderate to say such a thing. Think about what made you like the dress. It is absolutely gorgeous in my opinion. I’m sorry you’re going through this

Post # 3
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Honey bee

Its already a pretty form fitting dress until it flares slighly below the hips.  Does he want you in a latex dress that clings to your body? Maybe just body paint?  Saran wrap?  Short of buying a trumpet dress that is skin tight until it flares out at your knees, I’m not sure how much more you can do at this point.  I suppose you could try some padded spanx if you want it to be more “noticeable”.

Otherwise, I’m sure the dress is lovely on you and perfectly flattering and I doubt those are words he would have said on the day the woman he loves is actually vowing to be his wife and he would think you look lovely.  

I’m assuming your wedding is not just the two of you in your bedroom so at a certain point “sexy” also needs to give way to being a flattering comfortable dress you like enough to be spending all day in mingling with family and friends and being able to move around and dance in, too.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

We’re you planning on having it altered? The model pics look rather form fitting already. It was rather inconsiderate of him to say that. It’s a beautiful dress!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

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shadows9x :  I bet his suit is not sexy, that his trousers do not enhance his “manly” attributes. Unless he’s willing to consider the “outfit” below to remedy that, his very unfortunate (and silly at that) opinion need not be seriously taken into account. Wear the dress you bought, wear it joyfully and with confidence. It was your choice, to your taste. As it should be.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

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shadows9x :  It’s baggy aroun the bottom – like not form fitting at all there, it’s A line! It is fitted on the top already. If you want to change it (and only if YOU want to change it) then try asking a seamstress to make it more fishtail or trumpet. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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claroquesi :  this was an awesome start to my morning! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

So, he didn’t actually say he doesn’t like it, just made a comment about its tightness, and an ignorant don’t-know-about-colours comment on the shade seeing the dress totally out of context… so don’t despair!

You can easily get that shape of dress adjusted to be a bit more form fitting round your ass.  And once he sees you wearing it surrounded by your decor, flowers and everyone else dressed up, if he even notices the shade at all it definitely wont look brown

You loved the dress enough to pick it…. own it 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Do YOU like your dress?

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper

I have no patience for people who are into brutal honesty. What a hurtful thing to say after the fact. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Has your dress been altered at all yet? If not, your Fiance is making a judgement on something that will look very different on the day.

After we got married, my husband saw a photo of me in my dress pre-alterations and marvelled at how different it looked on the day (when it had been taken in an inch). Try not to worry too much – on the day with hair and makeup done, he won’t believe how gorgeous you look! And for what it’s worth, it’s a beautiful (form-fitting!) dress! x

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Do you have a picture of you wearing it that you can show us?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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shadows9x :  do you have a pic of the dress on you? How it fits the model tells us nothing of how it fits you. My guess without even seeing it is that it’s a height issue, I’m 5 feet tall too so I know from experience, the spot where you boobs are supposed to fit and the spot where you hips and butt should be are probably too far apart. 

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

That’s really inconsiderate.  I assume he saw it on you when you were at home looking pretty normal.  It will look different when you’re wearing the jewelery, makeup, hair etc.  and when it is in a wedding setting as opposed to your bedroom or whatever.  It will also be a more emotional experience for him/you/everyone and less of a nit-picky time.  It’s a form fitting dress already and looks beautiful.  It won’t look brown.  

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