(Closed) Devastated over TTC, what is wrong with me?

posted 7 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What would you do?

    Keep trying without testing

    Take a break- NTNP

    Get testing, keep trying

    Get testing, NTNP

    other which I will explain below

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

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    @MrsRichard:  Ah, thanks v much. I like to follow right behind you!!

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Since it’s only been 6 mths and you can only get pregnant once a mth (i.e. when you ovulate!), so that’s only been 6 times. I’d say don’t test YET. Keep charting and BDing at the appropriate times. Give it at least a yr. You are really physically healthy. I think it is just the stress that’s gettin’ to ya. Give yourself more time. That itself will relax you a bit knowning if it doesn’t happen this mth, I still got x amt of mths to go before I go for testing.

    I did a vag ultrasound. The doc said they will only call if something is wrong. They nvr called and I nvr even bothered to follow up to make sure they didn’t call cuz nothing is wrong. Getting FREAKED OUT and being tested was hard enough for me. I personally didn’t FEEL anything wrong with me so I didn’t bother with the results. Sometimes the results can scare you for no apparent reason too.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It took my sister about 6 months of serious trying to concieve her first (she was also about your age) and she was never on any form of hormonal birth control. Sometimes it just takes time… it could be age combined with not being able to have sex all that much with the distance. Just relax, stressing yourself out isn’t going to help. If charting and worrying all the time is stressing you out then just have a lot of sex and hope for the best.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @guitargirl:  I am right here with you. My doc actually told me to get an ultrasound since we had been NTNP since November of last year and I’m still waiting on those results. In all honesty we’ve been charting and timing and all that other stuff for about 7 months. For some reason the 5th cycle hit me hard and I was miserable. But I think if this process has taught me nothing else is that you have little to no control over the hand you are dealt so keep trying. After 2-3 more cycles if it is still nothing, call your doctor back and see what they say. And RELAX. Remember why you started this process in the first place; that you fell in love with someone and you should be enjoying this and not stressing out. But I’ve been there so I do get it but I can tell you it isn’t worth it.

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    took us 6 months, and bam, twins! take it easy, takes some longer than others. you know yourself best, and I think you need to take steps to reduce the stress. Babies come when they come, not when is convinient for us…sucks I know, but that’s the world, we are def gonna have some challenges due to timing but still couldn’t be happier. Yoou are a smart cookie for paying for that disability insurance! I wish I had done that so much, especially with a high risk pregnancy. 

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @guitargirl:  Well I am right here with you hun. I’m going into cycle 5 and the last AF really hit me hard- I know in my head it isn’t a long time and it takes a lot of people a year or more, but my heart still feels sad when it doesn’t happen. I really don’t respond well to people telling me to relax and let things happen- but I know a part of what they are saying is true. You cannot assume something is wrong or that you are infertile or that it won’t happen after 6 months of trying. There is a reason doctors don’t start testing in healthy people under 35 before a year has gone by, and it’s because babies come when they come. Hard, I know. I say keep on keeping on- just try your best, focus on the love, and try to enjoy the process (enjoy- ha! But seriously). I am trying to do the same. Reading this board is actually lovely- it’s so reassuring to feel like I am not alone in TTC and having to wait for my BFP!

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @fresitachulita:  I would love twins! Love your story, gives me hope. 🙂

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