Post # 1
So fellow Bees,
I recently went for my my first fitting of the dress I thought I loveddd.
That was until I came across the Sottero and Midgley ASM3297 as I aimlessly wandered aroung the site on a boring Sunday. I am super distraught and can not decide which way to go! Please tell me I’m not alone…I want to crawl under a rock and cry myself to sleep :(((((
If I purchase this dress in addition to the dress I already have, I will feel soooo irresponsible. Our wedding is already growing in price by the day. Please Help with any encouraging words!
Post # 3
First off, have you tried on the other dress? I can almost guarantee the dress you “thought you loved” looks better on you than one you’ve never seen on.
Secondly, can we see the dresses? I think it will help in giving advice.
Post # 5
There is always another beautiful dress, I have found several, but I loved my dress and it was in my budget. Were the designer options a bit prettier? yeah, but not enough to be worth the extra money. What you can do, if you cant get that dress out of your head, is look for it cheap, used, CSB, or a replica and have a reception and a wedding dress. Or you could resell your original one.
But there are a million gorgeous dresses out there, and Im sure your original dress is stunning.
Post # 6
Here are pictures ladies…
The dress I bought already-Adara By Sottero and Midgley
The dress I’ve been dreaming of every night- ASM3297 by Sottero and Midgley
Post # 7
@melodicsighs1:Unfortunately, this dress is a 2009 style so it is no longer in bridal stores to try on first. I would have to purchase the dress and hope I love it just as much as I do now. Since I’ve been having this dilemma, I’ve combed through the posts here and quite a few brides have purchased this dress sight unseen and said they “couldn’t be happier.” One bride on Sottero’s site flew from London to New York to order the dress because that was her closest authorized dealer!!!
Post # 8
i like the bodice of the ASM3297 but im not taken with the skirt. your dress is beautiful
Post # 9
@Annabelle86:Very good advice…The only promising used one I came across was a bridal store display size 14. And I need a size 6. After I pay for alterations, I may as well have ordered a brand new one. I feel like I loved my first dress, but I bought it because my grandmother had a really strong reaction when I put it on. I feel like I bought based more off of her reaction than mine. HUGE MISTAKE!
Post # 10
@eloping:The bodice is what made me fall in love with this dress!!! I understand what you mean about the skirt, but in the lighter shades (ivory and white) you can’t see the detail of the skirt as much.
Post # 11
Just get a China replica of dress #2. Or, sell dress #1.
In the long run, the price of getting another dress is a drop in the bucket. Maybe to even it out, cut back a little in other parts of your wedding so it evens out.
It’ll be ok!
Post # 12
I have yet to choose a dress- I’ve tried on probably over 100, been to every store within an hour drive, and I’ve found plenty of beautiful dresses that I could see myself wearing down the aisle. I haven’t made a choice yet because I like them all- but I can only have one.
If you still like the dress you have now, I personally would say stick with it. There will ALWAYS be pretty dresses, but the grass is always greener on the other side. Especially since you haven’t tried on the other dress, you might be seriously disappointed.
The choice is yours though, and if you truly feel like you won’t be happy with your current dress and you can fit it in your budget, then you could try to find it for sale used.
Post # 13
Gurl, you weren’t suppose to go there.LOL
Here’s what I found on PreOwned if you just have to have it:
Since you have time, you can stalk the web and find it. I purchased my dress 4 months prior to my wedding because I knew I wanted a sample or pre-owned. Through some serious stalking I was able to find my Gurl, Badgley Mischka sample, for less than $700. Give yourself a last drop date to find the dress and then sell yours.
Since you already have a dress made by the same designer, the fit shouldn’t be that much different. You just need to decide if that’s the dress for you.
Also STOP LOOKING @ DRESSES!!!LOL Find something else to Obsess about. Seriously. there are way 2 many options
Post # 14
Honestly I can’t see buying a second dress when they’re similar in style. I could maybe see it if you felt you got bullied into buying one dress and it was a completely different style then you had wanted, but to me these dresses look very much alike. I really like the bodice on the first dress and just the look of it overall, but that’s just my opinion.
Post # 15
Thanks for all your input ladies…
after much contemplation and few sleepless nights, I’ve decided to customize my dress a little instead of buying a whole new dress. Thanks for bringing me back to reality!!!
Post # 16
I think you made the right choice. You are going to look outstanding on your wedding day!