- 9 years ago
I will try and be as brief as possible….when my Fiance proposed 2 years ago, he did not have much so he gave me a wedding band instead of an engagement ring. The proposal was pretty lackluster too (he just handed me the ring basically).The idea was that he would buy me a diamond ring and would "re do" the proposal on his own terms. This was okay with me and still is, but it was certainly difficult when other girls were comparing rings and stories; I just felt so sad.
Fiance has had a well-paying (six figures) job for a year and I had every reason to believe that my "dream" was going to come true. I’ve done everything I was supposed to do for the wedding faithfully, wrote all of the checks to the vendors (I have been saving up for 2 years and am paying more even though he makes more because I wanted certain things, and I am okay with that too). Come to find out, he has not bought the ring or booked a honeymoon ( 2 items he was in charge of) and now his company may be laying everyone off! To top it off, they owe him $6k in reimbursements for items he purchased and they also owe him a paycheck. 2 weeks before the wedding it looks like I will not have a diamond ring or a honeymoon…
While I totally understand that times are hard, and while I am trying to be supportive of him as his company rides out these times (there is a 60/40 chance they will keep him even while laying others off), I can’t help but being hurt and angry that he waited until now to take care of these items. I have been so patient and so supportive, and this makes me feel like he A) doesn’t get how important these things are to me and B) that I can’t trust him to come through on his promises.
The wedding is 13 days away and I am SO SAD that I feel like this so close to the wedding. Please help! Any words of wisdom will be appreciated.