Post # 1
We have been waiting for US immigration and were just about ready to go ahead and set a July date, almost signed a contract on a venue, dress is paid for in full..and
I just found out Im expecting…I should be happy but I just cant be…We cant go ahead and get married until US immigration gets moving..I dont want to be 7 months preg and have a wedding..and my dress can prob go out a little but not ..depends on when…
Fiance is estatic..Hes 32 im 36 so time was def an issue..Hes not happy bc we are 8 hours away and all..but he doesnt get why im so upset…to me the $1900 i spent on the dress…
I worry the stress is causing all these cramps and i worry if i miscarry its my fault..and i wont be able to live with the guilt…
Anyone else been same situation??
Post # 3
Just try to stay calm and go with the flow. Talk to your vendors and see if you can reschedule for a later date- perhaps after your baby and everythin is settled you can do up the wedding you wanted and for now do the Justice of the Peace
Post # 4
Don’t stress! be happy!! Congrats, you’re having a baby! That will be a wonderful new addition to your family!
Don’t worry about the dress, the venue…those are all small matters compared to the wonderful life you will be bringing into the world. I’m not sure if I follow your timeline….if your wedding is Oct 1, you would have already given birth by your wedding???
Post # 5
@blurmeblue: I cant change my timeline…we were supposed to be married in october but us immigration is about 6 months behind with our paperwork..dont even get me started on us immigration…
We have to get married ASAP immigration goes throough bc we need his health insurance so no waiting till after…I cant justify spending the money on a wedding after paying US immigration thousands and a new baby..and in Canada id have a year paid mat leave….
Post # 6
You can do both kinds of wedding, We Did! We got legally married one year to the day before we got to have our wedding. Lots of couples do this for a myriad of reasons. If you look at it this way, you get to have the best of both world and some extra time to save for it.
Post # 7
congratulations on the baby! i agree with tksjewlery, enjoy every minute of being pregnant and save up a lil money!
Post # 8
Just so hard not knowing when we can get maried..how far away he is and feeling lousy all the time..I need him here or me there…I dont even care about the wedding anymore..I just want to be with my fiance
Post # 9
how you would feel about having a small, private ceremony where you two can get married, and then have the “wedding” or “party” later???
Post # 10
@JoshsTammy: It is more than ok to want him with you, be crushed over the wedding and be happy for the baby all at the same time. It is a swirl of emotions, and even harder when your shoulder isn’t there for you to lean on. Take a breath, buy something awesome for the baby (like a photo frame to hold a pic of all of you together) and keep plugging away at the immigration. I promise that the clouds will clear and it will all be ok in the end. Sending you giant (((HUGS)))
Post # 11
When’s the ball park that immigration will be ready? Is there any way you can move the date up? This happend in my family as well–couple got engaged set the wedding a year away and then found out they were expecting. So they moved the whole thing up about 6 months. If immigration will be done in like 4 months maybe you can plan an intimate wedding for 5 months out?
Post # 12
After waiting 6 months about 3 months longer then others for some reason…our visa application was approved yesterday..We prob have another 3-4 month wait on paperwork medicals etc..but I should def be able to move before the baby…
Im having dreams of staying small and fitting in my dress…prob not going to be realistic..I looked at maternity dresses online but they look like a..mu-mu….? Just cant accept my perfect wedding visions will have to be altered…
Thanks everyone for all your support..It really helps..Fiance doesnt get why I wont have a big wedding showing..
Post # 13
You know what, I can’t pretend to understand how frustrating it must be that your immigration issues are so tied in with your wedding date but…..congratulations…..in 8 ish months you’re going to have a little baby with you and you’ll be so delighted with him/her that these problems will seem less important.
You’re going to be a mum, and I’m sure an amazing one 🙂