(Closed) DH alone with a woman

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is it appropriate for a married man and unmarried woman (or vice versa)to spend time together alone?
    Yes : (57 votes)
    17 %
    No : (105 votes)
    31 %
    Depends on the situation : (174 votes)
    51 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 106
    Member
    1842 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I read the original post to my boyfriend, and he thinks he’s meeting up with the online girls, and he thinks there was cheating the day he and the friend were at your house.

    Post # 107
    Member
    12119 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    You “guess” you have to do something?  He deletes websites and and repeatedly goes behind your back to restore them. He mocks you and disregards and disrespects your feelings regarding  appropriate boundaries, both online and in real life, some of which involve actual cheating. On top of all that you sound like someone who is hesitant to take a stand, even over outrageous breaches in trust. Stop guessing and run don’t walk to a marriage counselor! 

    Re: the friendship and boundaries issue, we all think it can’t happen to us, but even good people can make mistakes given the right circumstances. I’ve seen it happen with more than one close  friend, people who, like many of you, once believed that with trust, opportunity and limitations on friendships with the opposite sex are old fashioned. 

    I’ve always rejected the premise that if you believe in having a few basic boundaries, you must have issues. As time goes by, life has it’s distractions and stresses, its surprises, and its ups and downs. People are human and even those who have always done the right thing in their lives can slip up if there is a perfect storm of opportunity and state of mind.

    Post # 108
    Member
    2734 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

     

    anonymoose412:  I haven’t read all the comments but I think it is highly inappropriate in this situation. I am all for having opposite gender friends. I have guy friends, Fiance has girl friends (one of whom is his ex girlfriend and I have nooo problem with it! I love her, we went to her wedding and she is invited to ours!). Hanging out alone… not okay in my book. My fiance has been alone with his girl friends in the sense that she showed up to the house first and the rest of the group hadn’t gotten there yet. No problem. And I trust my man completely.

    My fiance is also against me hanging out with my guy friends alone. REALLY against it. While I know I could hang with my guy friends without anything going on, absolutely nothing would be different than the way we are in a group of friends. But because my Fiance is not okay with it, I would never disrespect him and his feelings. That’s the biggest issue with your Darling Husband and this girl. You are not okay with it and he is doing it anyway (especially since this girl is possibly looking for more than just a friend).

    All that aside, your man is cheating on you with these internet girls. If my husband/fiance/boyfriend were chatting with other women online – I’d be outta there as fast as possible with a swift kick to his ass on the way out the door. In my book, what he is doing is cheating.

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