Post # 1
I feel pretty stupid even asking this but I’m pretty clueless.
When we were engaged a friend (who we are both friends with) invited me to lunch and I brought then Fiance along. And she indicated that she was surprised to see him. I didn’t realize that only I was invited to lunch. Then we had dinner another time, just me and her and she should she thought I might have brought him because I did the last time.
Now today I have been invited with my mom and sister to go out to dinner with a friend and her mother (who were both at my wedding and Darling Husband knows both of them). Darling Husband seemed semi-interested in going but I feel like it would be rude to bring him. And my sister and my friend’s mother are both definitely not bringing their hubbies (mom and my friend don’t have SOs).
I guess what I’m asking is, how am I supposed to know when it is and isn’t ok for Darling Husband to come along if it isn’t explicitly stated?
Post # 3
Unless he was specifically invited I wouldn’t bring him along. Or at the very least I would ask first.
Post # 4
Tonight sounds like it’s meant to be a girls’ night, so I wouldn’t bring your Darling Husband.
Generally, if a mixed-sex group is getting together, your Darling Husband does not need an explicit invitation – married couples are social units and have to be invited together to mixed-sex social events.
If your friend invites you out one-on-one for lunch or dinner (not a group outing), I would assume she’s just inviting you.
Post # 6
I would never assume Fiance is invited; I think it’s only a good idea to bring him if he’s explicitly invited.
Post # 7
I would assume Darling Husband was invited for particular occassions. Like my family getting together for a birthday or whatever. Or if I know other couples would be there. Any other time, I would either assume it was a girls night/lunch/whatever or at the very least ask.