(Closed) DH and I are moving and I am scared!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Being nervous and scared are all normal feelings. I moved away at home at 18 and I have never been back. When you move away from home you are given the ability to grow into your own. Sometimes you able to make mistakes and grow into a person you may have never known if you stay at home near your family. After leaving home a lot of things happened, my grandmother passed, my father lost his job, and my sister got into trouble. Even if I was at home I could have not controlled any of these things happening. When I did visit my grandmother on her death bed, she stated that she was so proud of me that I did move away from home and the woman that I turned into. I know it scared but at least you have a great person beside you to look for comfort and lean on. Embrace the newness and the fears will subside. Worst comes to worst come up with a plan B and a plan C.

Post # 4
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Breathe!!! It can be very scarry moving to a city far away from family. This is why you have your husband. You can be each others support and friend. Once you get more aquanted to the area, you will both make new friends. And 3 hours isn’t that far. I moved 14 hours away! I am back home now, but it worked out. While you are waiting to go to SDSU would you consider working part time. This would be a great way for you to meet new people.

Good Luck! It will all work out! Hugs!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

It’ll be okay. I promise. All of our family lives in St. Louis and we live in England. The seperation is easier than you think.

It’s perfectly normal to be nervous and scared to “leave home”.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Double Post!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just moved from CIncinnati to New York with my husband so I know exactly how you feel.  Three hours really isn’t too far.  My brother lives like 3 hours from my parents and they meet in the middle for dinner pretty regularly.  As far as moving, I feel good post move.  It was way more scary before it actually happened.  Once we were moved in it’s a lot of fun to be in a new city together.  It’s kind of like an adventure and I feel like it has brought us closer together.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It will aaaaalllll work out! I had all the same emotions when I moved away from my family. What you are feeling is totally normal! 3 hours isn’t too bad. You could easily go home for a weekend once a month or so! I am about 3.5-4 hours from my family and have been for a year and a half. We try to make it home every one to two months to see our families. It really helps the homesickness!

Post # 9
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Being nervous is totally understandable. Moving away from family is hard, but its also an opportunity to grow as an individual. Your concerns about getting into SDSU are completely valid, though. They are impacted, and I know a few people who tried and failed to get in despite the fact they had good grades, lived in SD, and got into a number of UC schools, which had more stringent grade/test requirements. SDSU is still one of the most popular schools, and its just a numbers game whether youll get in. Because of this, I would wait to move until you get into school. It would be devastating to uproot your life, only to find out you can’t go to school where you want, or you have to move again.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My ex used to be transferred every year on Feb1. I quickly learned that there are nice people everywhere. So will you. Relax and enjoy the adventure. Mucjh of your experience will be based on your attitude.

Post # 11
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I can empathize with you – it is terrifying.

I moved 3 hours away from home at 19. This move was fine for me – you are still close enough to get home if anything happens so I wouldn’t worry about that. But I don’t discount your feelings because I am currently feeling the same.

Now 10 years later I am finishing up my PhD and applying to faculty positions all over the world. I am scared to be even farther away from family (possibly a 7 hour flight away). I am scared about meeting new friends and starting a new life.

Change is hard and scary but it is also exciting. Men tend not to worry as much as we women do so your Darling Husband probably doesn’t understand your fears (mine sure doesn’t – he tries to be supportive but I just don’t think he understands).

Everything will work out but just know that it is OK to be scared just don’t let your fear hold you back from a great opportunity! (And I’ll try to listen to my own advice as well).

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