(Closed) DH and I are spending more and more time apart, and I am feeling kind of lonely!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would definitely not just deal with it. Talk to your husband, and let him know how you feel!!  Sometimes, life gets crazy, and the only time I see my hubs is when we are sleeping. On those weeks, we both know that Sunday is our day to do stuff together, no work. Even if it means listening to music and cleaning the house, at least we are together. I would ask him if you can have at least one day and/or night of the week where you both make an effort to not do anything outside fo being together. It sounds like you need that, and there is nothing wrong with that

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I think there is a compromise in here.

If he doesnt have to work late, then he shouldny so very often. Why is he working late so many extra hours? I would ask that he sticks to one extra hour each day and then gym which would bring him home for dinner with you on non-bball days. I dont feel like that is not reasonable.

Tell him what you told us about the way it makes you feel. 

I would also ask that he set aside two nights (or mornings!) a month to have a date for just you too where you are out of the house and not in front of the TV. Where you two are talking and enjoying each other.

You do have to work are relationships and he needs to compromise his overtime some and you need to accept some of his hobbies and overtime, but not all of it and not if its not required.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Have you mentioned to him how you feel? That’s number one. If you have, what did he say?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I hear you!  I’m not in your exact situation, but I completely get the lack of adult interaction/lonely feelings.  I stay at home with our 17 month old daughter, and, although she’s a ray of sunshine, there are many days when I just wish there were more adults around to talk to.  I do my best to get out of the house as much as possible – even taking a walk can improve my day.  I make coffee dates with friends/aquaintences, go the the mall, even just to browse. If I didn’t have the little lady around, I’d likely head to the gym during the day to break things up.  I really hope things get better for you!!  I think the first step is to keep busy, see if it helps.  If your mood shifts, his might too!  🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Definetly talk to him!! This would not be ok with me, especially not even having the weekends together.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Miss Sorbet:  I am sorry that you feel this way. I can totally relate and it doesnt feel great. I eat breakfast, lunch and dinner alone every day. It is depressing. Darling Husband chooses to work late too and so he gets home when I am going to bed. We talk all day on IM but it is not the same. I go to work and then come home to an empty house every night. On weekends he spends the entire weekend in his office working or playing games. I finally decided to be proactive and joined some meetup groups and keep myself busy. Def keep talking to your Darling Husband about it, the more I mention it to my Darling Husband the more he tries harder to come home earlier like once a week or do something…

Post # 10
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Honey bee

@Miss Sorbet:  Maybe you can suggest a weekly date night? Like, every Thursday he can’t work late (unless it’s required) and you guys can go out or make dinner together. It will give both of you something to look forward to, and some guaranteed time together.

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