- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2008
Background- Darling Husband and I grew up in completely different situations, completely different types of parents. Mine were very Christian, very strict- his were not Christian, and really loose with their rules. We both turned out well with no major trouble, so it really proves that not just one type of parenting goes.
So Darling Husband and I like to be on the same page as parents and provide a united front with our DS, so we were discussing some possible future scenarios and how to handle them. Then the sex issue came up. My parents didn’t approve of sex before marriage, and it was a hard and fast rule that there were only certain times that a boyfriend would be allowed in the house, and absolutely no sex under their roof! DH’s parents let him have his serious gfs stay over at night if he wanted and preferred that if they would have sex, they’d do it safe and protected (in all senses of the word) at the house instead of in the backseat of a car somewhere where they were rushing and might not remember a condom, be seen and get into trouble etc. We both knew these things about each other, but since it’s so far off-our son is 3 yrs old- we never made a plan for it.
I think I’d like to go with the way I was raised. I don’t particularly care about the sex before marriage thing-as long as he’s happy, and really cares about the person he sleeps with-but I don’t think I want his gfs staying the night and I’m uncomfortable with the idea of my kid having sex in my house. H wants to have the same rules for his son that his parents had for him, and thinks that if it’s not just a different girl every night and he’s got a serious gf, our son should be allowed to have her over sometimes. So we’re completely stuck. We agree that both sides have good points, but its kinda hard to compromise on this one? We don’t want to tell our son he can only have sex at our house 50% of the time or some such nonsense. How would you bees handle this future scenario?