DH and I cannot agree on home renovations

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper

mittenmama :  it’s definitely easier to talk it out once you have hard numbers! But also keep in mind that if you decide to open any walls there could be some very expensive surprises in there! We did a large reno once that our contractor over estimates on, built in a healthy “it’s an old house so let’s expect some weird stuff” fund and we STILL blew past it because there were things that needed to be repaired that no one could have dreamed of. It was a blessing and a curse, on the one hand it was really expensive but on the other hand we know our house isn’t going to fall down or burst into flames anymore. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee

mittenmama :  Is it possible to make a list of projects and expected expenses? Do you DIY any of this stuff? Perhaps in his mind youre going to be spending a TON of money. If you can budget it out and show you’ll get a lot of bang for your buck – maybe he will give a little?

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

mittenmama :  I think it’s a great idea to project some budgets and go over them with your husband. That will probably alleviate most of his concerns with the renovations! 

Post # 35
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Bumble Beekeeper

mittenmama :  if you find a good contractor they can help you maximize your budget and help you pivot if there are unexpected issues so that you don’t go to far over budget. For example when we discovered that an entire exterior wall of our house needed to be rebuilt (ugh) he figured out how to change some of our plans so we got close to our original but for cheaper. 

At the outset of our renovation I told my contractor all of my crazy hopes and dreams for what we could accomplish. He helped us prioritize so we got the most bang for our buck AND focused on the things that would be difficult to do at a later date. For example we really wanted to rough in plumbing for a future bathroom and refinish all of the downstairs floors. When the budget didn’t fit both we did the plumbing because we can redo the floors later much easier than re-opening the walls. In your case refinishing floors before you move in is WAY easier. So depending on the budget I’d start with that and DIY paint the walls. The kitchen cabinets can come later if needed. 

Post # 36
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Bumble Beekeeper

mittenmama :  

Well in similar circumstances l just go ahead and do it anyway. My h tends to look at stuff and say ‘ but what’s wrong with it, it looks fine to me , it works doesn’t it ‘ etc etc. 

So , l just go ahead and do it or get it done, l use non joint funds if it is purely cosmetic however. 

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