This post has been completely derailed.
Op’s would rather not raise her children in the mobile home community, it was supposed to be temporary and has now been five years and looks to be at least another five before they can afford everything on their wish list.
“the bottom line is that he is set on waiting until we can afford everything we want and I don’t want to continue waiting. So we are at an impasse.”
“I feel like I can’t stand to keep living in our trailer when I know we could have a house, even if that house doesn’t have every single thing I want.”
“And you hit the nail on the head. I really DONT want to keep raising three kids in a trailer if we don’t have to. I don’t feel that my DH appreciates how much it sucks”
“it is really important to me that he gets to experience a few years of living in a “normal” house, before he’s all grown up. I just feel like DH could compromise a little bit since we can absolutely afford a nice house in town or with a smaller yard.”
If her husband wanted to wait a year to see what happens or wanted to wait till the market went down that would be entirely different, but she came here because her husband doesn’t want to buy until they get everything on their wish list and is their forever home, she would rather compromise some of their wishes and have a different living situation for her family while her children are still children.
That said the housing market cycle is something everyone should be aware of. And all Bee’s would agree that whenever the market cycle comes around and home values inevitably go down everyone could get a lot more house for their money. However, that has nothing to do with Op’s husband only buying once and only when they can afford everything on their wish list. Them jointly deciding to wait till the market dips is one thing, him being unwilling to buy unless it’s everything he wants is another.
If Op wants to monitor the market and be ready to buy when it dips that’s a very valid choice. But her husband making them wait to upgrade their lifestyle until they can afford their dream property when she and her family are not happy in their current living situation isn’t the right thing to do.
There are all sorts of factors that go into deciding when to buy. I bought again near what we all think is the top and it was the right situation for us. And I could explain why but that’s not what this post is about. I only know my own situation, not Op’s so I couldn’t tell her when is right for her and her family. But waiting till you can afford your dream house and living miserably for 10+ years when you could have upgraded to something that was comfortable, but not your dream house, in that time is unnecessary unhappiness.
Again waiting for the market to dip to buy a home is a valid choice. Being unable to afford to move from an unhappy living situation is valid. However, knowing your family is miserable and being unwilling to move until you can afford your dream house is selfish.