- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I’ve posted before about how DH and I live in Europe. Well, his supervisor has been asking if he’s interested in going to Asia for a job.
Since DH works for the gov’t. there are constantly talks about job cuts here. We know some people that have “jumped ship” just so they weren’t forced out of work and scrambling to find something.
DH would get a pay raise and a promotion. His “new” job title would enable him get a better paying job when we relocate back to the states.
We LOVE to travel. It’d be a whole new side of the world that we haven’t explored and probably wouldn’t ever travel to.
We’ve been TTC with no luck with fertility treatments. I had a bad adoption experience in the U.S. with my exH that ended my marriage. DH is now on board with adopting from Asia IF it’s a guarantee. He had been against adoption ONLY b/c he didn’t want me to go through that again.
It took me 1.5 years to get a job here. I got promoted 6 months ago when my boss quit. I love my job. It gives me creative freedom BUT it’s been more than a PT job with training new staff and the changes I’ve started implementing. MY replacement STILL hasn’t finished her training and I feel like IF we left, I would have a lot of stuff to do there just to leave. I’d like to give more than a 2 weeks notice too.
Jobs there are harder to come by than here. I’d most likely be out of work but DH’s raise would more than cover my loss. I would fill my time with volunteer work as I’ve done here <== Not really a con I guess!
IF we decided to leave, his boss (in the U.S.) would more than likely get the ball rolling ASAP. We could literally be out of here in 3 weeks…we were given 2 weeks when we moved here ONCE the official paperwork came through. We found a house and were in it in less than 3 weeks.
I always assumed we’d be here another 2.5 years then go back to the U.S. So we have LOTS of stuff (I could get rid of some of it) and there are still places we haven’t been to. We have traveled Europe quite extensively (compared to everyone we know) and I have no regrets but still…
DH would also be “the big man on campus” with this new job. Unfortunately from what he’s heard, he might be working A LOT. Others that came from there, said they never traveled as they were always working. DH heard that they are trying to get more people there so the workload might not be as bad.
The biggest CON…his dad. DH got FIL a job here 8 months ago. FIL had never lived outside his home state. But he moved here with his new wife, dog, cats, etc. to be close to DH. They are BFFs. FIL’s other reason for moving was to make more money and pay off his debts. Unfortunately the money issue has been an issue, which is a really LONG story but he hasn’t seen any financial gain (more like major loss) from the move. He’d be devastated if we moved. I do worry what it would do to their relationship.
I know it seems like there are more cons but I honestly believe I could get through all of them…except the issue with FIL. If you’ve read through this, thank you! Does anyone have any insight into this? We haven’t mentioned it to anyone (except DH’s supervisor) as we don’t want assumptions made.