Post # 1
So we decided to kinda try last month and he really thought it would happen, it didnt. This month I charted and temped since yesterday I’ve had light bleeding and my temps have been dropping but Darling Husband refuses to hear it, he keeps saying You can still be pregnant! Then when I saw a bee on here say they might name their baby DHs name if its a boy, I thought he’d be like oh cool! Instead he said I really wish you’d stop mentioning other people’s babies! I’m disappointed as well but I dunno how to comfort him 🙁 I wish I was pregnant, but I’m not… Its only been two months. I feel really bad, I feel like I’m letting him down. Any advice?
Post # 3
It’s only been two months. Even in normal couples, only 70% conceive within 6 months- which means almost a third still don’t. Within TWO YEARS of regular unprotected sex, 94% of couples between 30-34 yrs age will conceive. So yeah, it sucks getting BFN after BFN, but as they say- if at first you don’t suceed, try try again! Sticky baby dust!
Post # 4
Get him a book to read on trying for a baby so he can understand how complicated it is and how low people’s chances are.
Remember that he is most likely not disappointed in YOU but in HIMSELF. He’s probably thinking “if only my little guys were stronger/faster/better”.
Post # 5
@salmonofmarriage: I know 2 months isn’t a big deal, but I guess he just thought it would happen right away! I think he’s hoping we don’t have any problems but I won’t even worry about it til let’s say December. We shall keep trying!
@Everdeen: you’re probably right about being disappointed in himself rather than me, I just gotta stay positive. We went to an NFP class and the lady told us if you’re charting you should get pregnant right away so that probably didnt help lol
Post # 6
My husband didn’t want to read about TTC, but the documentary The Great Sperm Race (available on YouTube) was a great way of summarising the process and the odds of getting pregnant each cycle.
And good luck 🙂
Post # 7
@hamikay: Thanks! Ill look it up, I gave him a little pep talk this morning and I think it helped! Maybe if he watches the documentary he’ll feel better about it!