- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
We had his parents over for dinner last night. I’ve always had a really good relationship with my Father-In-Law. He’s a really happy person, is genuinely interested in how things are going…good guy. My Mother-In-Law isn’t exactly a warm and fuzzy person…unless you happen to be under the age of 7. When Darling Husband and I were starting off dating, there were some problems, but we had them resolved and were doing well for awhile. Then, she threatened to not come to our wedding if there was no Catholic representation (we had been working our butts off to try to please everybody). We finally did find a solution, and she did come, and she apologized.
Ever since, things have been okay. I feel like we’ve taken a few steps backwards. When she was over last night, I was telling her about work. She replied that bad things like that just don’t happen at Catholic schools (I’m a public school teacher). That comment got to me…maybe because of our past history of the Catholic vs. Protestant.
Then, I was telling a story that used the analogy of putting your air mask on first, then helping a child or someone around you. She turns to Darling Husband and said, “You know I never could have done that, yours would have been on first.”
The final one was when they were asking me some questions about my religion (why they haven’t done this in the many years we’ve been dating, I don’t know). Because we don’t celebrate Lent the way that Catholics do, she kept saying that she just didn’t understand why we wouldn’t take part in that, but yet we take part in Advent festivities. It was the tone of voice that got to me…it was very condescending.
I talked to Darling Husband about the school one today. I asked him if he wouldn’t share some of my school stories with them, because I didn’t like the Catholic schools comparison. He didn’t seem like this was a big deal, that I was stretching it out of proportion. Maybe I am, but honestly…with previous comments made to me and the tone of voice, I’m not necessarily sure that I am.
I also know that Darling Husband is stressed right now. He’s been out of work for a few months, still trying to find a job. I also brought this up when, I realized later, that he was filling out something for a job on the computer, so that could have played a role.
Am I overreacting with my MIL? I know I couldn’t give the whole background story (this would make the post even longer!), but I know my SIL feels the same way.