(Closed) DH doesn't want me "too skinny"

posted 4 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Navygirl14:  I’m 5′ so I understand the struggle! My Darling Husband tells me he doesn’t like girls that are super skinny (which I’m not) so when I tell him my weight loss goals he rolls his eyes a little. I lost a lot of weight before my wedding in July, but gained some back during the honeymoon. So now I’m trying to loose that plus some. I would just tell him you want to focus on being healthy and if you drop some weight added bonus right? Men don’t get the whole weight loss thing like women do, so maybe it’s just a matter of putting it in a different light. If you’re being healthy, than there’s really nothing negative he can say!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Because your husband loves you so much and supports you , he accepts you the way you are.  He wants you to realise that even if you are not totally successful with the weight loss,  he’ll be happy with you being yourself.  This is a very supportive comment from him,  but don’t take it so literally. He wants you to be healthy and happy,  but not super skinny and miserable because you would not eat things that bring you pleasure.  Go ahead and do your thing, exercise,  eat healthy,  but allow yourself to indulge once  in awhile too.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Don’t worry about it for now. I’m 5’8 and I was 120lbs for a long time. I was naturally slim. Now I’m around 155lbs, maybe a little more. Most of this weight I put on prior to meeting my boyfriend. He understands that I want to lose weight and is happy to support my goal of being healthy. He’s seen photos of me at 120lbs and doesn’t want me to he that small again. In all honesty although I was happy then, I’m now 30 and I think I’ve filled out naturally. So I’m aiming for 130lbs. If I get to 140lbs though and I’m happy there then there I’ll stay. So honestly, don’t worry about your goal weight for now until you get there.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m 5’7 and my weight before I got pregnant was 135lbs, which placed my BMI at 21.1

If you’re 5’2, your BMI would be 21.1 at a weight of 115-116lbs.

So..I totally understand why you would want to be that weight and don’t really understand why your Darling Husband would say that that was too skinny. A healthy BMI is 20-24.. just lose the weight if you want to and your Darling Husband will love you anyway 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Edit: However I think my Darling Husband likes my ass more now that it’s bigger :D.. 

To be honest, if your Darling Husband likes it when you’re a little bigger then that’s a bonus.. Solike, just aim for 125lbs and see how you feel 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

My Darling Husband is similar to yours.  I’m around 5’3″ and have always been a steady size 2/Xsmall the entire time I’ve been with my Darling Husband (we dated for over 6 years before getting married).  But now that we are married, I’ve gained about a dress size (DH LOVES feeding me) and it’s been super uncomfortable for me feeling this extra padding and trying to find something to wear that actually fits (not to mention I’m hot/sweating all the time now!).  I told my Darling Husband I want to lose weight and go back to the way I was, and as supportive as he is about my happiness, he was really against me losing the weight.

I always thought he liked my slim body figure but I’m discovering now that he definitely prefers me plumper.  The extra fat I have on my stomach and hips turns him on, and he goes nuts about my boobs which have grown almost a cup size.  My Darling Husband has always told me how beautiful I am while we were dating, but now with my weight gain he raves about how sexy I am and how crazy turned on he is by my bigger body.

I’m not gonna lie, it feels very strange to me to feel so uncomfortable/weird with my fatter body and yet have my Darling Husband love it/be turned on by it so much.  So right now I’m focused on eating clean/simple/portion control (but I don’t restrict myself from anything), and most of my exercise is on strength training and increasing overall tone vs. losing weight and being a certain size.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Darling Husband loves me curvier than I was when we first together. Think men in general love boobs and bum! I wouldn’t worry too much. Stay healthy and listen to your body. He will love you whatever size makes you happiest

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I am from the Caribbean so maybe it’s a cultural thing but at 135 and 5’7″, I feel that I am wayyy too skinny and would LOVE to gain 20 pounds. Some people have all the luck…uggh.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Navygirl14:  Confidence is sexy at any size. If you feel your best between 115-125, that will translate into the bedroom and your husband will love that. I would take the “now don’t get too skinny!” comment as tounge in check/teasing, but I don’t know your husband. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

 

Hahah, my fiance is the opposite. I could definitely lose 20-30 pounds and my fiance have seen me when I was a little smaller and he wish I could go back to that size… My fiance loves my curves now but I don’t think he realize that when I lose weight, my boobs and butt will be smaller too.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I think 125 is perfect for your height. Im 5’1′ currently 132, I would love to be back down to 125, as I was 2 years ago. Ugg my boyfriend made me gain weight by wining  and dining  me.

Yes, I like to blame him.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

My husband was terrified of me losing weight because he didn’t want me to lose my curves. If you go about things in the right way, though, you can end up curvier.

My ass is certainly bigger now!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Navygirl14:  Darling Husband and I started losing weight earlier this year, I’ve lost about 20 and in theory have 10 more to go.  I’ve gone from a size 12 to a size 8 (I can almost wear a size 6 in some things).  He made a comment about him not wanting me to lose my curves – I’ve a bottom heavy hourglass (my measurements aren’t quite disproportionate enough to make me a full fledged pear).  I don’t think it’ll ever happen that I don’t have curves, my hips (while much smaller) are here to stay).  He wants me to be happy, but I know he’d prefer it if I kept a little bit of ‘softness’ he doesn’t want me to be ‘ripped’.

For reference, I’m 5’4 and was 167, I’m now right around 150.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Well, I would say it depends on your body type. BMI is a crock of poop and not really a good indicator of where you should be weight wise for a lot of people. So go with whats comfortable for you, but another set of eyes (your DH/FI/SO) is not necessarily the end of the world either. He may be right, he may be super wrong. I’m with other PP that say aim for 125-130 and see how you feel then. 115 may seem ridiculous once you get there.

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