(Closed) DH got laid off :( Tips for dealing with stress?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wine. Bubble baths. Long walks in lovely Fall weather. Petting your dog or cat. KAVA….seriously it’s amazing and totally legal. Venting to Bees (which you are already doing). Deep breathing. Movies. Yoga. Reading. Writing. Terrible daytime talk show about people worse off then you!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Wish I had some better advice but I think floridagirlblue pretty much covered it! The plus sides from my perspective seem to be that 1) Your hsuband is obviously employable since he got 3 good jobs in the span of the last year or so and 2) The lay-off was completely financial and he will get a glowing review. 

I know those might seem minor when you’re all stressed… but it should be a silver lining that at least this situation seems fixable. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Fiance was fired in February.  His unemployement benefits just ran out last week.  We’re now living off my dismal paycheck and I honestly don’t know how long we can keep affloat.  I’m usually optomistic and a “this too shall pass” sort of person, but today has just been terrible.  He had a job offer that we were really banking on.  He can’t drive, so it’s hard for him to find a job he can get to.  Fortunatly, this job worked out perfectly with the bus schedule, paid well, work he would enjoy…he just had to get his clearances and then he could start, they said.  Then they lost his resume.  Then they needed his transcripts.  After shelling out money for all these, they brought someone down from their home office to fill the position anyway.  Every other job he’s applied to he’s gotten let down because the hours don’t work for him or they’re not comfortable with me, the bus, or his legs being his transportation.  I’m really bummed today.  We don’t have savings or anything.  I make too much for any type of welfare – somehow. I work fulltime and go to school fulltime, but I’m going to look for a second part time job now so that we can keep paying the necessary bills.  It just sucks and I’m feeling really beat down lately.  So, I can totally sympathize.

 

 

Edit: Geeze, sorry to be such a downer on a “dealing with stress” thread. .___.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

First, watch this and enjoy something silly for a bit. Second, what are some things you guys have been meaning to do but haven’t had time to? Maybe you’ve wanted to read a book together, go out for walks, work out together, really anything. Go do that thing! I did that when I got laid off a few years ago and it led to some amazing things for me.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was laid off in June three weeks after my contract was extended for a year that same week we lost the condo we were suppose to buy because the appraisal feel through and we had to scramble to renew our lease after we had told them we didn’t need to. It’s been stressful, I just got some job leads and then I had extreme swelling in my hands and feet.

We had to go to the ER and I was diagnosed with Henoch-Scholein Purpura which usually only affects children, so now I can’t walk long distances or work out anymore (after being a regular at the gym) because my extremities will swell up the rash will spread and it may be taxing on my kidneys. I also have no health insurance but have to go in for blood test every two weeks. And my unemployment runs out in Nov but I won’t be able to really exert myself for a month or longer depending on how long it will take to make this go away.

I am beyond stressed as well. It really sucks when the world crashes down around you like that.

I’m going to see what I can do because right now I have a condition that renders me unable to work or to do much of anything really.

I’d say the best thing you can do right is take care of yourself, do things that relax and then try to attack this with some sort of a plan. I buy myself a nice piece of dark chocolate and make iced coffee at home. Then I take about an hour a day to myself even if that’s just reading a magazine or whatever. If you get too caught up in it all you won’t be able to see a way out.

Once I can walk and drive again with out causing swelling I’m going to seek out part time work. I just have to hold on because I’ve always made it work out before. I think if you stay strong things will work out for you.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@cbee:  Yay! That’s fantastic. I know it’s really hard but I think that treating bad situations like opportunities is the best way to retain one’s sanity. πŸ™‚

Please keep us posted, I know he’ll find a job!

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