(Closed) DH had an interview – didn't go so well. :(

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My fiance went through the same difficulty.  I’ve always enjoyed the interview process to be honest, he hates it.  I tried helping, I tried the mock questions, and it just made things worse.  The best thing I did for him was the day before the interview, made sure that everything was ready – clothes, shoes, resume, everything.  The morning of, I got up a couple minutes early, made sure he was coffee’d, fed and ready to go.  No pressure, didn’t act differently than any other day other than to tell him good luck on the way out the door.  All the ‘prep work’ just psyched him out more and made the situation worse.  Pretending like it was any other day helped a LOT.  He doesn’t need to see the behind the scenes work of making sure his tie matches, he’s got the right socks for the dress shoes, etc.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

How frustrating, I hate interviewing! I also hated it when my husband was interviewing, I felt stressed on his behalf. It took him a couple of months and hundreds of interviews after we graduated from college to get a job which was in his field-ish. I’m not sure this was the best way to go, but I just decided to let him be and be supportive (tell him good luck, give him hugs, etc.). He’s very humble and I think has a hard time selling himself, so I was concerned about him, but I thought that the best wa be confident in his abilities. Good luck to you and your husband in the job search!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The other thing that helped was to do a mini post-mortem on the interview.  Nothing major, just letting him talk it out afterwards and come to his own conclusions on what could have gone better, and how to improve it in the future.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am just like your hubby.  I don’t interview well and never get a call back…

Post # 10
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Worker bee

Tell him that an interview is no time to be humble.  He needs to sell himself and that if there is one time when you are allowed to brag, it is during an interview.  But, to take the pressure off, tell him that if he doesn’t get this job, he will get the next, and if he doesn’t get the next job, he will get the next one.  In the meantime, you still eat, you still love him, the rent gets paid, life goes on.   Good luck.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That’s awesome!!  I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you both!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@littlemisst08:  That’s great! I was going to add that the thing with interviews is that you never know. I once interviewed for an accounting position with a very famous sports network. The interview went horribly. The controller asked me a basic expense question, and I totally flubbed. When I left, I was like, “That’s definitely a no…” The next day, HR called me offering the position. On the other hand, I’ve had interviews that  I thought went extremely well – I got along well with everyone, was a smooth talker, etc., but in the end, I never got THE call. You just never know.

BEST OF LUCK to you both!

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