Post # 1
I’m 6+2, and the last time I BD was THE time ( he was sick, then I was, then I got my BFP). We’re not frequently intimate to begin with, but this is a little long. Darling Husband says he is afraid of hurting the baby and had read in the first couple weeks it can cause a miscarriage. On one hand it’s cute he’s concerned, on the other, how do I get him to be comfortable with being intimate? It’ll be a LONG 9 months LOL
Post # 3
How about a phone call from your doctor or a quick chat at your next appointment?
Post # 4
The next appointment is August 28. Which is still far. I’ll bring it up again when I’m starting to feel on the verge of friskiness.
Post # 5
the first time my husband and i had sex after i got pregnant it did cause some bleeding. peanut was fine and was just told to refrain until bleeding stopped i was around 6 weeks when that happened. I had bleeding for a couple weeks from it, but after that we have not had any issues with sex and no more spotting afterwards. I can understand his fear but I am sure he will relax more as the pregnancy progresses
Post # 6
I’ve been having sex regularly and I’m 11 weeks in. It was especially bad around 4-7 weeks before the MS started. Darling Husband went to my first prenatal appointment and the midwife reassured both of us that it was perfectly fine.
I would suggest that your Darling Husband goes with you to the appointment. Also try to look for information around the interenet and show him that it’s ok. I never had spotting but I have read that light bleeding is common.
Good luck! That extra blood flow in the nether regions causes more friskiness than usual.
Post # 7
I didn’t find out that I was pregnant until I was 6 weeks, so we were definitely having sex during that time. We continued having sex regularly and I only had light brown spotting once when I was about 10 weeks. I’m 26 weeks now, and having sex hasn’t caused issues. My doctor says it’s fine.
Post # 8
What about showing him a book/website like “what to expect when you’re expecting” or the mayo clinic? Ithey will advise that sex is perfectly safe throughout pregnancy. Might be enough to reassure him?
Post # 9
@hamikay: Yes, there was an article on Mayo clinic I’ll forward to him.
@MrsSnarlz: He’s definitely coming, it’s our first appointment with our midwife 🙂
Post # 10
Commenting for information.
We’re not pregnant or TTC but I’m sure SO will be just like your Darling Husband when we are!
Post # 11
I actually had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and when I got pregnant the second time, my husband was not comfortable with having sex at all! We talked about it and we decided to abstain until the second trimester. We were still intimate, but no intercourse. After our 12 week scan, his mind was put at ease and we went back to our usual sex life.
Post # 12
@awakemysoul: This is us but I’m the one who’s scared to have sex. Since I had a previous miscarriage and we continued on with our regular sex life after my bfp, I don’t want to do anything to risk it this time. I’ve heard of doctors telling women who’ve had previous miscarriages to abstain from sex in the first trimester. It might not be harmful but I will do anything to keep this baby safe. Can’t hurt to abstain.
@Monny: This is my plan after my first trimester and everything looks good we will get back into our regular sex life.