- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So I’ll give a little background before I start my vent
So when we made the decision to live together over a year ago we talked alot about it and decided that I would sell my house and we would moved in with him in a double wide that he had just recently built 2.5 years ago. Although I loved my little house I lived in another state and had a front yard that was practically non existant .. no driveway had to park on the street and a backyard that sloped all downhill only to have a active railroad track right behind it. SO I had originally thought I didnt want to live here and that I wanted an “actual” house with a garage and a little more storage room but it wasnt a hard decision to make the move here. Our place is actually really nice and I have fallen in love with the area and the privacy and the way it allows my daughter to play outside a little more at ease. Little by little we have made his place a home for all of us. My husband’s place was very much a bachlor pad when i moved in. It was pretty bare it had almost nothing on the walls no decor and all hand me down furniture.
I noticed from the start he was very much a person that was attached to stuff. Now he is not a packrat type person that keeps everything but he is a person that if it is functional he doesnt want to get rid of it because “he might can use it one day” Or if it still works why get rid of it? or I might need to wear that one day! Or a “it still fits though” He initally didnt want to get rid of any of his stuff.
I had a 3 bedroom house before as well with a kitchen and dining room and lots of storage. So when We pretty much had double of everything. I went through and got rid of alot of stuff both trashing selling and donating because we simply didnt have the room for it. We had also made the decision that we would keep the nicer of the things and get rid of the others. So most of the furniture is what belonged to me. So eventually my hubsand actually ended up getting rid of Alot of his stuff, He only had one condition….. “Frank” Stays.
Frank short for “franken chair” is a horribly old chair that is falling apart. I wish i had a picture but it use to be a recliner way back in the day( it is now screwed together so it doesnt fall apart). It was a hand me down that his mother gave him many many years ago. I think it was even a hand me down when she got it from her parents. This chair is more than 30 years old. It is a dijion mustardy brown color and it is a courdory type material! It is missing 95% of the buttons that tack the material down to give it shape. It has screws all in the bottom to hold the recliner part in bc it is broken. The cushions and the springs are completely shot! He keeps 2 big body pillows in it 1 folded up to sit on (which it eats all the time and goes halfway down in the back and starts coming out the back side) and one folded up behind the back. Even this though does not make this chair comfortable! It feels like your bottoming out and that the chair is gonna fall through everytime you sit in it. There is springs that has made holes in it coming out the back of it. Hubby use to be a big online gamer so it acts as his computer chair. He has wood attached to the sides of it with a speaker on each side so it is like surround sound. NOW LET ME TELL YOU THE WORST PART! It sits in our bedroom as does our computer! I really dont like to have a tv or computer in my bedroom and tried to get him to move it out into the spare room but This is the only place in the house that we can get reliable internet connection.
This chair is hideous. This desk is not that great either ! I offered when I moved in to buy him a new desk and nice computer chair and he decliened. (my husband is a big buy 6ft 7in tall and about 270 lbs and says he wouldnt fit as comfortably in a normal computer chair. I even offered to buy him a New cozy chair even a recliner if he really wanted it . HE Decliened! We have the same discussion all the time lets get rid of that thing it looks awful… he says well he looks kinda rough but cant we just slip cover him or something! SERIOUSLY??????!!!
This chair bothers me so bad.. Its the first thing I see everything morning and seriously if i could move that beast I really think I would drag it outside and burn it when he wasnt homeI feel like our house is pretty nice we have really put alot of work into making it us and decorating it and we only have our spare room to work on otherwise everything is great!. BUT OUR BEDROOM I have tried to decorate it a little bit and we got a new bed and new pillows and bedding and all that but .. overall that is all that has changed everything is exactly the same as it was! The colors are the same everything is shades of brown or tan and we have one wall that he chose to be a burnt orange color. We can never agree on anything when it comes to the bedroom he never wants to budge on changing anything.
I feel like this chair and desk junks up our bedroom even more. Sometimes it just makes me not even wanna be in here. I just feel so blah & yuck about a place that should feel warm and inviting and romantic. (does that sound stupid?) Nothing about our bedroom screams romance and I think sometimes it is affecting our intimacy. (just having a tv and comptuer in our bedroom in general) As silly as it sounds i just want our bedroom to feel like a relaxing and maybe even kinda of a sexy place.
Sometimes I feel bad because I feel like I have made him get rid of so much of his stuff that maybe be feels like our bedroom and this chair is all he really has left. (he has commented before on how much of his other stuff we got rid of) And other times I feel like I sacrificed alot too and up and sold my house to move to a place i didnt even want to live at first. I feel like we work so hard inside and out to get our place looking good and increasing the value and appeal that he is just being silly for not giving up this chair. Seriously this chair and stuff is really all we argue over. I just dont know what to do! It bothers me so bad but I wonder if I should just suck it up and let him keep his ugly ass beat up chair!
Sorry that was all so long but what do you guys think? Try to convience him for change or just suck it up and let him be happy and keep his Chair?