Post # 1
Last night I curbed one of the custom rims on his car…pretty bad too. He was in the passenger seat and had cautioned me to be careful pulling forward, but it happend…he was livid and angry and he completley overreacted…
I apologized 100 times but he wouldn’t hear it…this is the worst day ever, and I have no idea why he’s being this way. I’m about ready to tell him I”ll call the insurance company and pay the deductable, and then once his rims are fixed he can go marry them, and hopefully he has a nice life with them, and that they cook for him and clean up after him and raise his children for him….
It’s morning, he didn’t sleep with me and I doubt he will speak to me….matter fact I’m 100% sure he wont’ speak to me. I just don’t understand how you can turn against someone over somethign like this. Clearly I was careless and the damange is my fault, but what about the damage he’s done to me now.
Worse night ever…sorry, venting. This is our first serious fight…I’m beside myself right now.
Post # 3
@SamanthaBolero: I am so sorry. I did something similar to DH’s “baby”, his Camaro. When I was opening the door to get out, the wind caught the door and it banged into the car next to him.
He was pissed. I crid because I felt bad and it was a total accident (like yours was). It took about 2 days for him to “get over it” but when he did it was like nothing had happened.
I’m sorry sweetie.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
Let him have his space & you take yours. It’s clearly not the end of the world, but once you both cool down you can discuss having it fixed & taking him out for a beer ..or something.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
wow. over some car rims? Why were you driving his car in the first place?
I would say something to him. He’s damaging your relationship, which is way more important than a car part.
Post # 6
I also have expensive custom rims so I understand being pissed when they get curb rash but I think he is COMPLETELY overreacting!! If he’s that sensitive about his rims then maybe he shouldn’t let anyone else drive his car! Shit happens, there’s no way you did it on purpose and you have already apologized. There’s absolutely nothing else you can do in this situation. I’m sorry he’s being this way, I would be so upset if I was you right now 🙁
Post # 7
I can’t imagine treating your spouse so terribly over an object. I screwed up DH’s old Mac laptop once by dropping it on its side and denting where the power plug went in (this was before they had magnets). He didn’t stop talking to me over it.
Post # 8
Well, I certainly won’t be driving his car EVER again…but I drove because he was tired, he works alot….which I suspect is part of his overreacting…I really don’t think he’s functioning as well as he thinks he is while working so much, but it’s no excuse…he’s furious and now I”m furious…it’s a cluster F.
Post # 9
yeah, I don’t get it either…I was sad and crying when I got home and went into my closet but then had this “aha” moment which sent me into a rage as my mind flooded with allt he times he’s screwed up, broken something I cared about on accident. It’s just not fair to treat someone like this. We defently need to have a talk once things calm down.
Post # 10
boys and their toys! He prob just needs his space and time to vent. I understand where he is coming from, I kinda get that way with my stuff 🙁 and my husband is all about his car…..
The rims can be buffed and polished and the scratches should come out! Call a car detailer and get more info. Sounds like you probably shouldnt be driving his car….
Post # 12
Your right, nothing to be done..there’s nothing even to talk about right now…I”m really upset, been crying all day, I suspect he’s been sleeping but I’m staying far away.
Post # 13
Yikes! It does sound like he’s overreacting, but stress and being overworked can do that to a person. You’ve already apologized, so let him cool down and I’m sure he’ll realize that he went a bit overboard. If not, you need to let him know that, yes, you effed up, but his reaction was uncalled for and he needs to get himself under control in the future.
Post # 14
@SamanthaBolero: I just wanted to say hugs! I can totally relate to having a car guy, they really are like emotionally invested in their vehicles. He is definitely overeacting but hopefully it blows over soon.
“It took about 2 days for him to “get over it” but when he did it was like nothing had happened.” <
He really shouldn’t hold this against you for too long.
Post # 15
@Happy Hopeful Bee:
yeah, I’m certain things will be fine, but I”m pretty furious that I have to wait for him to get over an OBJECT, that I damanged on accident. I can think of a number of things he’s ruined on accident that I once held dear…right now it’s my sanity, If it weren’t for you bees and also my best friend, I’d probably pack my things and head to moms.
Post # 16
If my fi yelled at me extensively and refused to speak to me over a material object that is replaceable I would begin re-evaluating my relationship. Wtf