Post # 1
We had a girlfriend of mine over for dinner last night, and Darling Husband casually started talking about babies, and was questioning Olivia (friend) how she would react if we had a baby. He kept going and going and going, I was in the kitchen just blushing away haha Once she left, he and I started talking about it. This week is my last week of pills on birth control, and i’m going to stop taking them.
So here we are. TTC. A couple days before our 1 month wedding anniversary- AHH!
I guess I need to learn the TTC lingo! I’m open to any advice from you guys! Some questions I do have:
- How long should I be off BC before we activley start?
- I take Toprimate- an antidepressant- is that safe/okay for pregnancy?
- Do you have to chart? I see alot of bees’ on here that chart- is it necessary?
- Is it normal to be freaking out like this?
Post # 4
@totheislnds: thank you for the link!
Post # 5
By The Way i think its so cute your husband has baby fever!
Post # 6
Because of your anti-depressant prescription, it would probably be a good idea to have a pre-conception appointment with your OB/GYN. That way you can discuss alternatives if you really need the meds to function, or you can make a plan to gradually step down your dosage until you are med-free. Whatever you do, keep taking your meds until you see your doctor, because going cold turkey off anti-depressants can be very dangerous. It may take 2-3 months to step down off of them, so in that case, you’d probably need to still use protection during that time. But your doc will be able to help you put a plan together.
Ditto PP about the charting; it’s not necessary, but it sure is helpful. Saves you a lot of money on pregnancy tests if you know in advance that you didn’t ovulate or that you didn’t have sex anywhere near ovulation, etc. Also, having that information from early on will be very helpful if you have trouble conceiving for whatever reason. I used fertilityfriend.com and it was easy/useful.
Post # 7
@Kkaattii: You can actively try right away, but your body may be out of whack for a few cycles.
Topamax is known to be unsafe during pregnancy. Every chemical has a rating A-Z as far as safety. Most things are C, which is unknown if it causes fetal harm but it is thought to. Somethings that are known to be probably safe are B, but there aren’t many studies. Almost nothing is A….Topamax is rated at D according to Epocrates, which is what doctors at my work use. The question is, if you really need an antidepressant at this seemingly happy time in your life and only you and your doctor know the answer to that question. Most doctors will keep women on some form of antidepressant during pregnancy, depending on how severe their depression is because pregnancy can increase your symptoms. But almost all antidepressants have known negative fetal effects…. Though plenty of women are on them who have happy, healthy babies, so don’t worry if you need to be. =) Definitely discuss it with your doc.
Charting isn’t needed, but I love doing it. Check out fertility friend and Taking Charge of your Fertility. It would be good to know if you regularted right away after BC, but definitely not necessary.
And yes, it’s perfectly normal. Congrats and welcome to the wild world of TTC =)
Post # 8
@totheislnds: I know, I think he’s worse than me. He talks to our dog (we’re weird) and he tells her that shes going to be a big sister hahah!
@inspiredcreations: Thats the main reason why we’re going to actually “try” and not just let it happen naturally because if I popped up pregnant tomorrow- I would stop my medicine cold turkey and be a head-achey little bitch, which is no bueno. I have a doctors appointment on the 24th, so i’m excited to see what she has to say!
@ChuckNorris: Is that a book that I could get on my Nook? Or is it the kind you need to highlight & fold pages & write all over? 🙂 Thank you! I’m excited!
Post # 9
@Kkaattii: You know, I actually haven’t read it but everyone who has on here highly recommends paper for highlighting; they all go back and reference it all the time. I learned to chart with Fertility Friend’s free tutorials and plan to get TCOYF after a few months of no success.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
I just finished my last pack too! A few weeks ago now. 😀 We have decided to “just have fun” (no charting or anything like that) for a year. If we are not preggo by spring 2013, then we will really start buckling down.
I think the freaking out is totally normal. 🙂
Post # 11
@aardvark: that sounds like our gameplan. Not trying too hard, just seeing what can happen naturally. Charting looks complicated!
Post # 12
I’m 99% sure that TCOYF is not available in an e-version. I looked for it before buying the paper copy and couldn’t find it for my kindle, at least.
Post # 13
I’m giving myself several months without BC before TTC, but starting right away is probably fine. But…
Definitely talk to your doc about the anti-depressants. I was on a blood pressure medication that was NOT safe at all during pregnancy, so when I told my doc that I was planning on going off BC, she switched me to a safer medication to manage my hypertension. Even though we’re not TTC yet but I feel much better knowing I’m not on such dangerous medication, if we were to have an unplanned pregnancy.
Charting isn’t necessary, but it’s pretty cool! I’ve just started dabbling in it and I think it’s really neat to pay attention to what your body is up to during your monthly cycle.
Freaking out? Totally normal. Good luck!