(Closed) DH is stressing…..

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 4
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14657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I actually do think that he should stress with you about the money.  Nothing good can come out of one person taking on the stress imo.  Its not something you should take on by yourself, esp if it was for his car.  Financial aspects I think should always be out in the open and a general budget or spending habit in agreement.

Have you guys sat down and loooked at your over all joint earning/spending?  I knwo you said you dont mind paying for his car since he pays for a lot of other stuff when you go out, but maybe its time to cut back on the going out and pay down the credit card or save more for the wedding.  

Post # 5
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2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You guys are getting married – you need to be able to openly and honestly have conversations that, yes, may be stressful! A wedding is no exception – you don’t have to nag, but you do have to let your voice be heard!

 

Also, if he has the money for a car he has the money to contribute to the damn wedding! I am doing a bulk of the liquid/cash savings for the wedding and Fiance is paying down our credit cards and also giving me a pre-set monthly amount to put into savings…in addition, his tax return will be significantly larger than mine so all-in-all we’ll almost be equal.

 

If you guys can talk openly and honestly you may actually decrease your stress levels!

Post # 7
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My relationship is the opposite. I would spend and just hope I had money in my account. Its hard on my husband, and he helps me out from time to time. The biggest help is when he tries to put me on a budget…. its frustrating but I know it works and prevents my stress from esculating…. Maybe you should volunteer to sit down and work out a budget with him? 

We have tried taking money out in the begining of the week and seperating it into envolopes for our various needs. That really helped us (me) get on track 

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