DH left for work early angry and I don't know why

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 166
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692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

is_a_belle :  I mean, I get it… kind of, but this is a stressful time for both of you. Has he made you feel supported and appreciated during this hard time? Why do men turn into such asshole baby whiney pants when they get stressed and then say “Sorry, I was stressed and didn’t handle that well.” And then think everything should be okay? 

Post # 169
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

is_a_belle :  My Darling Husband had similar experience growing up and similar behaviors. Definitely get a handle on it now because you do not want your kids to learn from him and mimic these poor emotional management skills. There is a book on the market called Emotional Intelligence 2.0. It is an excellent read and very eye-opening for those who did not develop a natural ability for self-soothing and need help sorting out how they are feeling in any given situation. The fact is some people understand themselves very well and others have trouble interpereting their own emotions  at any  especially during stress  and end up avoiding dealing until they explode (Amygdala Hyjack). The good news is these skills can be learned at any time in life. Counseling for the two of you would be an excellent idea and if he really struggles with these kinds of issues he may consider something called DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) 

I wish you both the best!

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