Post # 32
My Fiance was dreading being a parent. He asked me to wait more than a year before ttc (with biological clock ticking that was looonng wait) but I agreed to do that. Got pg straight away and it really did scare him. When our child was born he instantly became a parent, a totally devoted Dad…and was so happy we later had baby no 2!
I was definitely ready for parenthood and he wasn’t, but if you ever saw him you would never guess that there had been any reluctance years ago.
Post # 33
@Macintosh: I don’t tihnk its B/S at all. Thats the way he thinks. So what? I think he is apprehensive and that’s normal FOR HIM. My husband wasn’t like that but some are. Its all a difference in personality.
Honestly though–if you WAIT for him to be ready, you’ll be waiting a long time. Because I think fears like that only going away with actually having your baby.
Post # 34
My mom told me that my dad said this exact statement when they were first married!
He was not ready and said he would never be ready…but they tried anyway. After my mom got pregnant he was the most excited person, ever. I think he was even more excited than her! I’ve always been under the assumption that men are not ready because they are SCARED. Then the baby comes and they are fine… and can’t imagine life without baby. I’ve always heard that men say this and I think it’s actually pretty normal if a guy feels that way. Does not mean they do not want one…I think it just means they are a little nervous (and dont want to straight out say it).
Post # 35
My hubbie is still not ready…I am not ready for that matter and we’re both in our late 30’s….we want to enjoy another year together before we say goodbye to our sleep and freedom, I know what you meant, no one is really ready to have kids, you can prepare, read and attend so many classes, but once that baby is yours and you take it home you’re not ready for the reality of it…so I would say enjoy trying and what will be will be….Good Luck to you!
Post # 36
Hubs caught baby fever before our wedding… way before I did. He had to do some coaxing to get me ready. Admittedly, it was very sweet listening to him talk about children.
Post # 37
My Fiance is totally ready and super excited that we are preg.
My dad on the other hand will tell you – he never wanted to have kids. Until they found out that they couldn’t have any children. Then, he never wanted them so badly! Several years later, they adopted my brother, then me! And now he’ll tell you we’re the greatest things to ever happen to him….next to my mom. 🙂
Post # 38
Fiance would put a baby in me right now if I let him. He’s ready now whereas I want to wait a year or two.
My ex wanted children as well, although he was too young to be ‘ready’ he was definitely thinking about it.
So nope, it’s not all men!
Post # 38
My husband was ready for babies as soon as we met (he was 33, I was 28). I still wasn’t ready for babies when I got pregnant at 33 lol. Some men want babies, others don’t…same goes for women.
Post # 39
NO WAY! My DH told me that whenever I was ready, he was ready!