(Closed) DH might lose his job

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrstilly:  I don’t have any sound advice, but I’m sorry to hear.  I hope things work out for you and your family.  It’s a shame the way education and teachers have ended up.  I was so excited to become a teacher until I learned that there were virtually no jobs for us.  🙁

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry to hear about your DH’s job situation. My situation is a little different, my H has not been able to find a job since he graduated in August. While unemployment is always hard, men take it worse because they feel like they can’t provide for their family. Try not to bring up the job situation or say things like “since you’re not working can you do X, Y, & Z”. Offer support if he wants to talk, but don’t force it if he doesn’t want to. Even though you obviously have your own anxieties about the situation, try to keep them to yourself so you don’t make him more nervous or sad.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance just lost his job and I just got a job as a cashier part time so his unemployment is pretty much all we have for the time being. I support him in any way I can just letting him know eventually something will come along if he keeps trying and doesn’t lose hope. He puts in nearly 20 apps a day and he rarely hears anything back so he gets flustrated and sad sometimes too. It’s hard but the 3 of us just lean on each other and he’s had more time to spend with my son so they have had some time to bond through all of this. I just try to keep him positive and he tries to keep me positive just by being there for one another and focusing on what we do have… we also make sure to still have a little fun and not completely dwell on the bad situation- today we took my son to the park since it was nice and warm, the day before we went to the book store and read books together and the day before that we just took a walk around the mall to get out of the house. I guess the little things help.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@mrstilly:  I am so very sorry. Is there any possibility about him getting a master’s so that he maybe can teach at a community college? 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t know if you’re religious, but I tell non-religious people all the same thing, so I will give you my “usual” advice.  PRAY!  I hope that he does not lose his job. The ecomony is tough.  It is a real shame the way that teachers are treated (like they are commodities) when they are responsible for forming the minds of our most precious gifts, our kids!

You need to encourage him ALOT.  Even if you are stressed.  Especially if you are stressed.  Men thrive on their ability to provide for their families and if he does lose his job, it is going to be a major blow to his ego.  He will feel like less of a man for awhile if that makes any sense.  You need to be really strong and positive.  Remind him how good he is at what he does and have a frank discussion about what else he might do based on another skill set that he posesses.  If he gets laid off, he can still supply teach, right?  If they let him go, doesn’t he get a package?  I know almost all teachers (in Canada anyhow) have a Union behind them and there are packages for a required layoff.

It really is going to be ok.  You’re not going to believe me right now, but it always works out the way it is supposed to.  You need to trust in that and be strong for your husband, especially if it gets tough.

Money can rip people apart and you don’t want to be in the middle of a rift if he does lose his job.  You need to be a stronger team than ever!

That’s the best advice I can give, I hope everything works out.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@mrstilly:  I know this is less than ideal, but would relocating be an option at all?  I’m so sorry.

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