(Closed) DH not on our home loan (kind of long-rant?)

posted 4 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Purchase the home then have his name placed on the deed and it will belong to BOTH of you. Explain to him that being on the loan alone means that you’re responsible for a 6-figure debt. Why is he so pressed to share that?? LOL! If (God forbid) something goes south down the road and you lose the home, it will ruin YOUR credit, not his and his should be restored by then. This way you guys will always have someone with decent credit to keep you afloat. Win-win. Men and their fragile egos…I tell ya!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My DH isn’t on our loan either.  We wanted to keep the house we were living in that he owned before me to rent out, so it would have been hard for him to be approved for another mortage, especially since he was self-employeed at the time.  It has been 5 years, and I honestly don’t think he even realizes the difference.  His name is on the deed though.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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mallorinicole : My guy just purchased us a home and he is the only one on the mortgage, but we’re both on the title. I went to the closing, I had to sign a bunch of papers… it’s our house, not his.

Just put your DH on the title 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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mallorinicole :  I bought our house before we were married or even engaged. We had been living together in a rental already and so this house was always our home since we moved together. He helped pick the property, but i paid the entire downpayment and according to the registry and the bank I’m the only legal owner. It really doesn’t matter since we both know this is our home. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

DH isn’t on my mortgage or deed because i bought the house when we were newly dating.  he doesn’t have an issue with this.

but finances aside, he doesn’t have to be on the mortgage, but you can put his name on the deed.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Hope you can work it all out =)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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Kitty79 :  i agree. I had a co-worker who did this and when things got rough it definitely backfired on her. She ended up having to move out to protect her sanity because she legally couldn’t kick him out… yet she’s the only one on the hook for the mortgage (and the fallout) while he got to live gleefully in “his” house rent free for a year until foreclosure. 

You kind of just need to tell DH to suck it up. Yes, it sucks… But at the same time he needs to grow up and understand that it’s because of how HE managed his credit and at the end of the day a home is what you make it…. Not who’s responsible to pay it. 

 

Talk to him about both of you refinancing in a few years when his credit is better

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I’d be wary of putting H on the deed but not on the mortgage. My understanding is that then you both jointly own the home, but you are the only one on the hook for the payments if something were to happen. Personally I’d suggest that he work hard to rebuild his credit and you look toward refinancing in a year or two. 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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Kitty79 :  +1.

It’s all great and lovely and “ours”… until it’s not.  I would not open myself to be completely financially screwed like that by taking on the mortgage myself and putting him on the deed unless I had a prenup or legal agreement stating that if we were to split, the house would not get split 50/50 and he would only get 50% of what has been paid off.

Would your rate be higher if he were on the loan too?  Cuase if not, then this could be a good way to raise his credit score too.  Just cause you would use his income and be approved for more, doesnt mean you HAVE to spend more.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

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pinkshoes :  
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mrstopaz :  Thank you both, I got nervous that my post would upset people so I changed it.  But I totally agree with you both and what I said, I guess I’m just feeling extra wimpy today, LOL, Thanks ladies!!

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