(Closed) DH offered a job in Boston – what to do?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
5784 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is there any room for him to negotiate the salary or ask for moving expenses? If it were me I’d go. Its taken this long to get this opportunity, who knows when the next one will come along.

Post # 4
5668 posts
Bee Keeper

@SuperKate: Are you working right now? Would it be financially feasible for you to continue working where you are with Darling Husband goes and scopes out this new job for a couple of months to decide if it’s right for you to both move there? It would also give you time to look for a position in Boston. Do you have emergency savings for a few months of salary in case you don’t find something right away?

Post # 7
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

personally, if it were possible, i think I would let him go and start the job and you stay and work at your current job until you actually find one. I know that’s not ideal, but moving somewhere with no job offer is scary. Not to say it isn’t do-able. Darling Husband moved to Atlanta to be with me even though he didn’t have a job and it worked out, but things were super tight for a few months and we even had to live with our parents. It took him almost 3 months to find a job.

Post # 8
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you’ve been trying for 2 years, I wouldn’t let this offer go by.

Start looking immediately and would you consider a part-time job while searching for something in your field?

Boston has a high cost of living but if you can make ends meet, I’d say take the plunge and go for it. Be prepared to have your finances tight for a few months but if you can manage that, you’ll be fine.

Post # 9
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you’ve been looking to move for awhile, I would take this opportunity. He could always ask them if they would have a temp position available for you (obviously, this might not be in your field, but it is better than no income).  When we moved for my job, my employer offered to help find something temporary for my husband as a sort of incentive (he ended up keeping his same job, and telecommuting). 

Post # 10
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Are there advancement opportunities for your husband in this new job? Is he currently employed? If so, is the Boston job better, financially and personally, for him than his current job? If it would be a job with better opportunities for your husband and there are generally a fair amount of jobs available in your field, I would go for it. If it’s not a better opportunity for him but you are just considering it for the location change, I’d be a bit more hesitant. Congrats on the opportunity!

Post # 11
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ktisthatbees: Ditto

I let him go and then continue to look for work while you are still working.


Post # 12
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

(potentially) Welcome!!! 😀

Also have him ask if the company can help with spousal relocation. Some HR depts. will do that.

Post # 13
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would go. This is where you want to be. It might be difficult at first but…it might be your only chance. It’s easier to find a job once your in the area compared to being far away. You can always take a temp job at the mall or something. I realize the logical thing might be to let him go and you follow but I wouldn’t want to do that 🙂

Post # 14
3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would go and take whatever job I could get, doing whatever, until something in my field opened up. Could you do part time somewhere just to give you some extra money and then spend your days off intereviewing and searching for jobs? If you guys both want to be in that area and you have been trying for a long time then you should go for it. The opportunity might not come up again for a long time. It is going to be difficult either way for you to both have offers at the same time right now, since the job market stinks. Just go for it.

Post # 15
5668 posts
Bee Keeper

@SuperKate: I would suggest staying there for a while then. I made the mistake of leaving my job to move to Atlanta with no job offer in 2008 and I ended up unemployed for 2 years. PPs talk about getting an part time job not in your field, but those aren’t always easy to come by either. You do have savings, so perhaps you can set a timeline. For instance, “I’ll move to Boston with Darling Husband by November regardless of finding a position.” This way you still let Darling Husband try the job out, you have some time to find a position in Boston and you’re not losing your income and you could potentially stash a bit more away before you move.

I also like the idea of discussing spousal relocation with the new HR department.

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