(Closed) DH only wants one TV in our house-I want my little one, too…

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think he is going to have to take your word for it when you say it will be only during your crafting times. That you will watch TV with him other times and even have a day each week where you two watch a movie together.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

If you’re going to be in the crafting room anyways, then won’t you two be doing different things regardless if you have a TV in there or not?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We have two TV’s, one little one in the bedroom and a big one in the living room. Honestly, we rarely ever watch TV in separate spaces. We just naturally gravitate towards the living room to watch together (we watch the same shows).

If we are watching in separate rooms, it is because we just need alone time, which is nice to have sometimes, and having separate TV’s helps with that. Since yours wont be hooked up to regular channels, you probably wont find yourself watching too often, anyway.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think he being fair and in fact a little controlling. I have a different view then most people on the whole tv watching thing but I don’t think spending quality time with your spouse is sitting on the couch watching tv. There is no reason for you not to have a little tv in your crafting room. I think you need to speak up for yourself, and point out that sincei t doesn’t have cable, is a small tv and in your crafting room you probably aren’t going to get a lot of use out of it.

My fmil is a crafter and she has  whole room with all her crafting things and a big sewing machine, and she has a tv in there to keep her company when she is doing labor intensive things.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That’s odd, and not really fair in my opinion. Unless he’s sitting down in the craft room spending time with you while you’re working then what’s the difference?

It’s never been an issue with us. We have 4 tv’s, 3 hooked up to cable and one that it’s only DVD in a guest room just because we simply HAD that many tv’s when we moved in together and 9 times out of 10 we watch the same one. The option of watching different things is nice, and is important in my opinion. We all need some alone time and for some that means watching a TV show their spouse doesn’t like. There’s nothing wrong with that unless you’re both camping out in seperate rooms 24/7.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s not really fair to tell you that you can’t have a second TV.  FI watches a lot of sports, and I’m not interested in watching the Tour de France or Wimbleton or whatever event is on.  I’d get a lot more frustratated with him if I didn’t have a second TV to escape to!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

What if you two just don’t want to watch the same thing at a particular time?  We have a tv in the living room and one in the bedroom.  If I’m watching soaps or Bridezillas (which DH has zero interest in) he heads to the bedroom to watch shows about technology or quantum physics or ancient weapons.  It’s no biggie.  We still spend plenty of other time together, including when we do want to watch the same thing on tv.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sounds controlling to me. I say either use your TV in your craftroom or show him what its like when you set up shop in the living room. Im a sewer knitter spinner quilter candle maker and crafter and completely understand when your in there you need some backround noise because it gets very lonely. Set up a chair for him in the craftroom and tell him if your busy in there but he still wants to spend time with you he is welcome to come visit anytime.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hm. While I’m firmly in the camp of one tv in my house (because I don’t want them in the bedrooms), if it’s only going to be used for DVDs when you’re crafting, I don’t see a problem. If you’re in the other room, you’re in there doing something else anyway, what difference does it make if you’re watching a DVD, too?

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’m a fan of a one-tv household, but considering that this is for your craft room… I think you should get your little tv.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Put your tv wherever you want to. It would drive me insane if I was only allowed to watch tv wherever he is. We have 2, one big one in the living room, and my small one in the dining room. I’ve tried putting my tv in our bedroom but it doesn’t work there as for some weird reason the connection freezes. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We admittedly have three. The one in the living room we always watch together, my crafting tv comes out when I am in another room doing a project (it only has dvd capability), and our bedroom one is for lazy nights and the news. The only times we watch tv and are not together is when I’m crafting or a hockey game is on. I’d tell dh that he needs to give you time to prove it won’t divide you. If he feels there is an issue, he can bring it up again with no repercussions.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We have 3 tv’s and one projector, and all but one get watched….I would take my TV and put it in your craft room like you are wanting to do….

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What about selling the idea of a second TV which could float between rooms?  Sometimes it lives in the craft room for chick flicks for you… sometimes if lives in the bedroom for adult flicks for BOTH of you??? Would he say no to that ? Do you like that idea?

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