DH sneaks dogs table scraps, feel undermined. Is it a big deal?

posted 11 months ago in Relationships
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s pretty unlikely you’re going to be on the same page about everything when you become a parent. 

Instead of having an unrealistic expectation that two people with different lives and upbringings are going to agree 100% on everything involved in being a parent, look at this as a way to work as a team on compromise. That’s much more realistic of a goal: that while you may not agree with every parenting decision your partner makes, you’ll respect each other and come up with compromises you can both be comfortable with. 

The dog thing can be a way to work on those skills. Bc based on your post it sounds like you told him how it’s going to be, and expect him to follow through. That’s not being on the same page, and it’s definitely not a way to parent that allows him to feel involved or valued.

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