(Closed) DH Is Terrible At Introductions…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How is your SO at introductions?

    100%! He's always introduced me!

    Not bad, he sometimes forgets.

    About 50/50.

    Hardly ever introduced, to never.

  • Post # 3
    3617 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    This is always a hot topic in our household too. DH rarely remembers to introduce me, usually the person is awkwardly glancing at me and I’m awkwardly staring at him and DH waiting to be introduced. After maybe TWO years I just started introducing myself. After I open my mouth to say “Hi I’m ___” my DH usually jumps in to finish the introduction. It actually shocks me and catches me off gurad when he DOES introduce me. He tries to remember, but he is very very forgetful–as in I have to put his keys next to his coffee every morning or he will call me at work asking where his keys are. LOL

    Post # 4
    9966 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Oh, that is a huge pet peeve of mine.  My ex never introduced me, but in his case it was because he was lacking in social graces, big time.  He never got better about it the entire time we were married and it used to bug me a lot.  I eventually got over being upset about it and started introducing myself but I never liked having to do it. 

    Luckily for me now, my Fiance is very polite and has the proper manners to always introduce me when we run into people he knows.  So I no longer have this issue.

    Try talking to him about it again and let him know it’s important to you to avoid your feeling awkward.  Ask how how he would feel in your place if you didn’t introduce him in the same circumstances. 

    That said, everyone does have different “manners training” when they’re growing up, and I think that’s where a lot of it comes from.  I came from a family where everything was very “proper,” from table settings to proper decorum, expected at all times.  So it’s probably not that he means to make you feel bad, it might be just how he was raised.  Just a thought.

    Post # 5
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My Fiance was homeschooled. lol He’s not the greatest with small talk or things like introductions. So I introduce myself sometimes. He’s just so laid back, that he forgets. I know it’s not a diss or anything. 

    Post # 6
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Sometimes my DH flakes and doesn’t introduce me, but most of the time he remembers lol.

    I would find that kind of frusterating. I don’t think introducing someone counts as bragging.

    Post # 7
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    My husband is usually pretty good at it, but he sometimes forgets.

    Post # 8
    5976 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I was actually the original offender. I would forget to introduce DH to a few people. One time, he said, “Forgive my FI’s manners, but I’m her fiance…nice to meet you.” Once he started making me feel like an idiot in front of people, I never forgot again :o) 

    Post # 9
    3218 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Fiance is great with this, but the other side isn’t always greener!  The other night after we’d been riding rollercoasters all day, I wore my glasses because I ran out of contacts, and I feel super bloated… his friend’s parents are sitting at the restaurant and he’s all hey guys, this is my FI!!


    Post # 10
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He doesn’t usually introduce me as, “This is my girlfriend, MissBoPeep.” but he almost always introduces me by name.

    Post # 11
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    He’s a repeat offender on this charge. Most of the time, I just end up introducing myself.

    Post # 12
    2259 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    DH has been better at it lately but I think that’s because I ragged on him so much at first when we started dating. There was nothing more awkward than for me to be standing there while he makes small talk and forgets to introduce his fiance or wife…. eye roll…. 

    I’d usually just jump in and introduce myself. Thankfully he’s gotten better. 

    Post # 13
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My DH does this once in a while and it’s so irritating. Yesterday some random guy was behind us in line and started asking him about Graduate School and the baby while I’m standing there not knowing who the Hell this guy is. It turns out it was one of his favorite professors that I met last Summer, but had forgotten. I felt like a lump on a log:(He could have reminded me or something, “My Name, this is Dr. so and so…you met him last summer…”

    Post # 14
    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    DH does this all the time, and I find it funny!  I don’t know why, but it’s never bothered me.  It’s not like he’s doing it intentionally — he just forgets sometimes that I don’t know everyone he does.  I don’t find it disrespectful in any way, though.  

    Post # 15
    3670 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My husband has actually been really good about this.  Since we’ve moved up here, he’s introduced me almost every time we see someone from his work.  The only time he didn’t was at the store when he was talking to two guys.  One of them finally introduced himself and when they left, my husband immediately apologized and said he didn’t do an introduction because he couldn’t remember one of their names (he did know the name of the guy who introduced himself). 

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