Post # 1
Last month, I got a BFP and two days later, I lost the baby. Darling Husband was kind of supportive, but only because he didn’t think it was a big deal. He would say ‘Well, it was only two days.’ or ‘it’s not like we were really trying.’ and stuff like that. It was his way of not making it a big deal so I wouldn’t dwell on it. I didn’t think much of it because that’s how he normally is.
Fast forward to today when he basically tells me I get that he doesn’t think I was really pregnant and that because I wanted a baby so bad, my body gave me the symptoms.
I guess I don’t really know what to do here. It really surprised me when he said that. I know I am baby-crazy and that sometimes I symptom spot, but even a BFP?
Post # 3
@nicollette1189: Did he see the test? How did you know you lost the baby?
I’m just confused as to how he thinks you essentially made-up a pregnancy.
Post # 4
@nicollette1189: if you had a clearly positive test, then you were KU. Unless it was a Internet cheapie that possibly had an evap line? It sounds to me like you had a chemical pregnancy 🙁
either way, im very sorry for what you are going through.
Post # 5
He did see the positive test. He questioned that the line was dark enough, so I posted it on here. Lots of people posted to confirm. Two days later, I was at work and started bleeding pretty heavily and that lasted about 3 days and then my regular period flow for about 3 days after that.
Post # 6
I’m sorry for your loss.
This is one of the most negative “side effects” of the early response pregnancy tests. We can find out so early now…… 15 years ago you wouldn’t have even KNOWN you were pregnant…. so there was much less knowledge / greiving / focus on early mc. Since there is such a high early mc rate, it makes it tough to have that knowledge.
I would tell your Darling Husband that his comments are not helpful to you. I would also try to get him to talk about why he doesn’t consider this a “valid” pregnancy. it could be that he was excited and is now feeling disappointment that he isn’t really comfortable dealing with. He could be one of those guys that prefers not to know so early. If you are going to go right back to TTC these are issues you may face again… especially if you continue to test right away.
I don’t mean to be a downer….. but 30-50% of all fertilized conceptions will be lost during implantation, which it sounds like is what happened in your case…… that’s a pretty high rate if you are testing before you are a week late. Even though you are excited and you want a baby…. I might suggest that you wait a bit before testing next time. And I know it’s hard.
Post # 7
@nicollette1189: my sister had the same thing happen to her in september. her husband reacted the same way as well. Its called a chemical pregnancy. Id google it and show the information to your husband