(Closed) DH told me to shut up…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 167
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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lemonglass :  

Why didn’t you go to the grocery store? It was important enough for you to pick at him until he exploded and then you didn’t bother when he came home. You chose to angrily clean the dishes instead.

Post # 168
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Busy Beekeeper

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lemonglass :  Am I really the only person who hates having to ask their spouse to do things they should already be doing on their own?

It’s understandable that you wish he would take the initiative on this stuff (even though, as Sansa pointed out, it seems he does sometimes take the initiative and you shut him down). What the bees keep trying to tell you is that this is who your husband is. Do you actually want to save your marriage? If so you need to get over the fact that he has to be asked to do basic shit that he should do automatically, AND START ASKING HIM TO DO IT. In the case of this morning, that means waking his ass up and telling him to make breakfast, and not micromanaging every step of it. If you’re too resentful to do that, then leave him…but what you’re doing now – festering in your resentment, picking fights over every little thing he doess or doesn’t do – is straight up shitty. It’s creating a toxic environment which is bad for you, bad for your husband, and even worse for your children. End the cycle bee – leave him or get over yourself and start asking for help.

Post # 169
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

My gawd just ASK HIM FOR HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT. 

USE YOUR VOICE. 

Quit this passive aggressive sh*t. Grow up.

Post # 170
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Buzzing bee

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lemonglass :  Again martyr complex. First he didn’t cook you soup (we never cook each other soup, we buy that shit in cans).

Now you made everyone breakfast when sick – kids couldn’t eat cereal? You didn’t need to cook breakfast. 

You are doing unnecessary stuff and expect a medal for it.

Post # 172
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Bumble bee

I’m sorry but your husband is standing naked in bathroom asking is he can masturbate?!

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