Post # 1
I’ve been having issues with our cat ever since we got him and have made past posts on that for reference as I am not going to go into a ton of detail about what we’ve already done because I’m having technical issues with weddingbee right now and it keeps deleting what I type.
I am exasperated to tears over this situation and just feeling heartbroken about this. Basically our cat has bowel issues and we cant figure out the cause. The past month hes started having bright red blood in his stool and straining along with soft stool. I took him to a new vet yesterday and they quoted us $700 for all the tests they’d need to run even though we’ve gotten all the parasite tests done and hes been treated with metronidazole with no improvement.
I bought a prescription food from them yesterday and if this doesnt work I dont know what I’m going to do. My husband is totally over it and says we cant keep loving like this finding blood and poop all over the house because we have a toddler. I dont always catch him using the litter box in time to wipe his bottom and I’ve just become a nervous wreck always trying to catch him pooping. He lays all over our bed and couches and we cant keep him off so I wash our sheets and comforter every day, clean the couch every day. I just love him so much but this has effected our whole life to the point that I dont go out anymore because the cat with make a mess all over the house.
Dh says it’s time to give him back to the rescue of this food doesnt work and keep his sister who has no issues and I just get overwhelmed with guilt every time I think about it. Am I a horrible person if we take him back? We are TTC for 10 months now so this stress is wrecking our lives. Send help.
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2019 - City, State
I feel so bad for the cat. Rescue animals sometimes have more issues due to past abuse. I would fight to keep the cat. Was the cat adopted with the understanding that it could have vet costs? I would change the diet and bring the cat back to the vet. I definitely would not get rid of the cat, but that is just me. It may be an unpopular opinion but I definitely think of pets as family.
Post # 3
If it were me I would be on board with my husband on this one. You have a toddler so having cat blood and poop everywhere is not healthy or safe. You’re also trying to conceive so you don’t need this added stress which for me is more important than a cat sorry. Family or cat = Family wins. This is just me and I don’t have pets I had a tiny dog when I was younger so I really can’t relate in this instance.
Post # 4
I’m sorry but when you adopt a pet, you’re promising him/her a ‘forever home’, it’s so sad that animals who get old or sick are no longer wanted. This is what you and your DH signed on for when you got him, he’s not a toy to be cast aside as defective just because he’s ill. Well, we’ll keep your sister, but youv’e become a burden, so bye.
And people talk of ‘rehoming’ as if it’s a simple thing to do. If his own human family considers him a burden, do you think he’ll easily be adopted out with bowel issues and in need of testing/ diagnosis? People like to say they’re ‘rehoming’ their pets because it makes them feel less guilty than saying we’re sending him back to the shelter to live out his days there or possibly be euthanized.
I suspect a big part of the anxiety you feel rushing to clean up after the cat is because of your husband’s reaction, deep down it doesn’t sound like you really want to give your cat away. If you’re TTC it’s not likely you’re so strapped for cash that these tests aren’t do-able for you. Not saying you’re made of money, but you don’t sound destitute either. If you don’t have $700 readily available or room on a credit card, please speak to your vet about a payment plan. The cat is suffering needlessly because he’s undiagnosed and therefore untreated- wanting to get rid of him rather than get him proper vet care is heartbreaking.
Post # 5
I would probably rehome the kitty in this situation.
Post # 6
I was trying to find the words but this is exactly what I wanted to say.
OP maybe don’t give kitty free reign all over the house. Can you confine him to a room until the vet figures out whats wrong? Kitty needs a diagnosis. Put those pee pads down. And get some old blankets and towels to put down for kitty to be comfy. These will be blankets and towels to toss when kitty is better. That way it’s easy to throw in the wash with a disinfectant. You csm cover an entire area. Get baby gates up, etc.
You gotta push the vet for ideas on what to do. It’s no way ro live for kitty either he’s suffering greatly.
Post # 7
Are you a terrible person? Sorry, but yeah, a little. You decided to bring pets into your life. Pets get ill, pets make messes. And you haven’t completely covered all that can be covered to find what’s going on. I respect that your TTC but it’s not fair on your cat to just kick him out because it’s sick. He needs you and your help. Do you think anybody will be willing to take on a sick cat? Probably not.
Our first dog started peeing and pooping in the house. She had cancer and was losing control – we paid for 2 surgeries, each gave her another year or so. At the 3rd we had to let her go because the vet said he couldn’t operate anymore. It was annoying and expensive… but she was a family member. Mum’s current dog also started peeing all over the place suddenly. Diagnosis: Cushing. He, too, gets treatment. Expensive but worth it.
So find that money, as a previous poster said, get a payment plan. Maybe solve that problem first before you have another baby. Either this will be something the vet can solve with meds or surgery, then your cat can get healthy again – but only if you find the money. Hardly anybody will be willing to get a cat that will need surgery straight away. Or it’s something horrible like an unoperable tumour, then it’s your duty as a caring owner to spare him the pain and put him down now, rather than taking him back to the shelter where THEY will have to find the money to find out what it is and then put him down.
Post # 8
This is tough 😢 my cat went through a phase where she would not stop peeing on our carpet and destroyed our new couch, which isn’t as bad as blood/poop everywhere. We moved and our cat has been much better. But during those times we got so frustrated with her and the vet said it was just behavioral and the things we tried didn’t do much.
If it really is affecting your life so much you could consider rehoming her/ finding a foster home, but I would only feel ok with it if you found an actual person who would help her. She will not get re-adopted quickly with these issues and will probably live in a cage for a long time 🙁 thinking of putting my cat in a shelter makes me want to cry so I understand how you feel 🙁 🙁 I’m sorry this isn’t great advice but I wish you luck
Post # 9
I’m sorry mama, I can understand how you are feeling on some level. One of our cats pees allover the house for no apparent reason. We have given them new food, given them more cat boxes (one for each cat + one extra). We have determined that it’s either because the cat box isnt’ clean enough for him (we clean every day all 4) or its a territorial thing. We can’t wrap our heads around it..
But your problem sounds much worse. I can’t imagine washing my sheets everyday beacuse kitty poops in the house and allover your stuff.
I can tell you I had to switch one of my cats to a medicated food and it did help tremendously but it was for crystals in his pee. And he has been 100% better now being on the new food. We do not feed our cats Blue Buffalo anymore for that reason. Long story, but we only use Purina and the medicated food for one of the babes (I have 3).
While kitty gets aclimated to the new food, can you keep him segregated to an area of the house? Block off a basement or a room for him? It sounds harsh but if you quarantine him with the new food maybe tou can figure out if it’s working?
Another suggestion is to buy a $19.99 wifi camera off amazon and set it up to watch kitty in the quarantined area to try to see if you can pick up on the issue.
These are all things I personally would do because I also view pets as family and re-homing them would be a last resort for me.
Sorry Bee, I feel your pain ;(
Post # 10
Poor kitty, maybe you could look into pet insurance? I don’t think it’s fair that as soon as there are problems you want to dump the cat back to the rescue.
Post # 11
As soon as there’s a problem? This has been ongoing since we adopted him at 4 months old. Hes now a year old. I feel like I’ve tried everything.
The rescue didn’t tell us he had any issues when we adopted him and they made us sign a form stating we would never rehome him so we’d have to bring him back there.
We’ve had him tested for parasites and treated with metronidazole and that didn’t work. We’ve changed his food and given him probiotics. The vets dont seem to have answers other than trying prescribed foods so that’s what were doing.
I love him but where do I draw the line on my family’s health and my sanity? I’ve never been so stressed in my life. We’ve spent over $500 already and my husband refuses to spend more when it doesnt seem to be working. I already feel like a bad person for considering it. I just worry about my toddlers health.
Post # 12
We are his first home. He is almost a year old now and we’ve had him for 8 months.
Post # 13
Most of what they’re wanting to test for has already been tested at the previous vet. Which is why we are trying the elimination prescription diet because that should provide him some relief. If it doesnt I will probably get some more testing done whether DH likes it or not.
I know my cat isn’t a toy and I love him. But this has wreaked havoc on ourlives in so many ways. When do I start putting my own child first because for the past several months I’ve been having to choose.
Post # 14
I also take pet guardianship seriously and generally don’t believe in rehoming. Pets that have been rehomed often wind up with adjustment issues which can cause them to get rehomed again and again. One of my friends adopted a sweet dog who had been rehomed 3 times previously. The poor little guy now has separation anxiety.
I also question what message it sends to toddlers, to rehome a family member who has become inconvenient, messy, or a burden.
On a practical side, has kitty had an ultrasound or any imaging yet? I’m wondering about polyps or something causing a partial obstruction.
Post # 15
$500 is NOT a lot on veterinary care. It’s kind of mind boggling that your husband is refusing additional tests just because the first round didn’t find any results. Well, thats why you need more tests. Not everything is an easy answer or an easy fix. I respect that you are trying to find answers, but the fact that you are putting a (fairly low) price limit kind of negates that. Just like doctors cost money, so do vets. Pet insurance, though too late in this situation, should be considered in the future though honestly if you re-home this cat, please do not adopt any more animals that you can’t afford.