DH wants to rehome our cat

posted 2 years ago in Pets
Post # 31
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Blushing bee

Have you tried blending the chicken so that the consistency is more like cat food and there aren’t any actual pieces?  That helped my cat a lot when she had cancer and didn’t want to eat.  Putting pumpkin in the food of my cat that had bowel issues after being adopted also helped.  They make these dried pumpkin flakes called Firm Up, which are helpful if you don’t want to deal with fresh pumpkin. 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

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prism :  regardless of what people here are saying, you’re not terrible. you’re human and you’ve got a breaking point. I love animals, I really do—but it still boils down to just that: this is an animal. It is causing you and your family (made of real people, who are exponentially more important than an animal) undue stress at an already stressful time. I commend you for trying to take care of him for so long, but you HAVE tried. I’m with your husband here…time to take him back to the shelter 🙁 I’m sorry, bee. 

 

ALSO: is this cat worth ruining your marriage over, or your child getting sick? Because it seems like it could actually lead to that from what you’ve told us here. 

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Sorry, when you have a pet, you make a comittment to care for that pet.  Pets are family.  I would overrule my husband on this and take the cat.in for additional testing.  No doubt.  Let me ask you this, if the TV went out or your sofa broke, would you have the money to replace it?  Or would you do without?  I have a feeling the money isn’t the issue, your husband just doesn’t want to spend it on the cat.  Please do the right thing.

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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prism :  

Why are you allowing the cat to have free run of the house?  Half your battle would be won if you just confine him.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Amazing to me how many bees are justifying dumping the cat because of the added stress. Ugh.  So much for love and committment.  No wonder millions of animals are killed in shelters every year. 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

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prism :  you might also try a different vet.  I had a cat that was basically collapsing before my eyes and my vet said her growth was benign and would probably go away or not bother her.  I later learned from an emergency vet that it was cancer and her body was shutting down.  I’m sure this situation is nothing like that, but I think sometimes vets (and doctors, etc.) get too stuck on their original theories and miss things.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

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violet90 :  this is a recurring WB theme.  I need to stop clicking pets posts because they always end up upsetting me. 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Perhaps the problem would be easily solved if you just had additional testing????  Seems like right now some of this stress is self inflicted by not taking additional steps to determine the cause.

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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emmalicious :  It is heartbreaking.  Having worked in animal rescue for 15 years it is so draining to keep picking up the pieces in the lives of discarded animals and watching them die because they are no longer convenient.   I have seen so many beautiful animals die because people were moving, having a baby, or didn’t want the hassle of a pet anymore.  Dumping on a shelter is just easier than doing the right thing.

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

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prism :  don’t feel bad. It is much easier for some of the move financially privileged bees to justify you spending an extra $700 (c’mon, that’s just a drop in the bucket, amirite?!) on a cat whose health may or may not improve. Also, it is easier to just be told, for lack of better words, to “just deal with” the stress and strife it is causing in your household when they’re not the ones actually going through it. Some people may actually be able to handle it, but everyone’s breaking point is different. Whatever you choose, don’t feel like you’re a bad person for reaching whichever decision. You’ve got a husband and a child whose feelings and health are way more important. Your feelings matter too, bee. And if you’re the only one willing to take care of the problems being caused, that’s just another layer of stress for someone who is TTC.

 

take care, bee.

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper

$500 already? Thats ridiculously low. Come on now. It’s $100-$200 each visit minimum when nothing is wrong for us. Your husband not wanting to spend money if it’s not working is frankly exacerbating the problem. You adopted these animals you need to take care of them and take them to the vet. You only tried the one med is that correct?

Then ask the vet for another idea. I find it hard to believe that two vets just shrugged their shoulders. I emailed our vet near twice weekly with our cats random symptoms and after trying several things we found a treatment that works for her. Feline herpes. We weren’t told about this either. Likely they didn’t know. It happens. 

I might have more sympathy if you two truly tried everything but you haven’t at least not from the info given.  And seriously stop letting the cat have free reign. It’s meaner to give her up than to leave her in one room. 

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper

Missed the toddler part. Which is why kitty needs to be quarantined in a separate room. 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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prism :  another option might be to ask the shelter for help. They might be able to connect you with a vet that could cost less and/or have more experience with problems like your cat’s. This way they are aware ahead of time of the problem and can try to help while keeping your cat with you rather than having to take the cat back immediately.

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