DH wants to rehome our cat

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Post # 106
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SoccerBee86 :  

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Post # 107
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chelseacg :  

I can totally empathize with having to do strict confinement with a young pup.  When I went to pick my pup up from the cardiologist, she told me he had to be on strict crate confinement for three weeks.  Then she added:  And I wish you all the luck in the world with that!

Post # 108
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prism :  I think you should rehome the cat, for the cat’s sake. You honestly should never have an animal again if you and your husbands solution is to get rid of them once they have health issues. Sorry that animals, like humans, cannot control when they fall ill and can’t take care of themselves. When you get an animal you should go on the assumption that at some point they will become expensive and it won’t be as easy and fun as just having a cute cat to snuggle with when you feel like it. These types of posts make me sick, you don’t deserve the love of an animal.

Post # 109
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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 everything has been said, so I’ll just add

– if you are going to rehome him, and he is bonded with his sister, it’d be kinder to rehome him with his sister.  I know his sister isn’t the “problem” but really if you’re gonna take the easy/cheap way out the least you can do is not seperate a bonded pair.

– if you must keep the sister, or ever get any other pet, do get it pet insurance.  Pet insurance for the sick cat won’t do any good–pre-existing conditions aren’t covered–but at least in the future if you have pet insurance you won’t decide to rehome the moment the bills become significant.  My dog cost over $20k the first year we had her, but with pet insurance we only had to pay around $5k. (We have 80% coverage but some of the stuff like spaying and vaccines weren’t covered–the rescue lied when they said she was spayed and gave us no vaccination record so we just assumed they lied there too.)  We could not have afforded $20k, so pet insurance was a real life-saver.  

Post # 110
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Busy bee

You chose to adopt TWO cats. You had to have thought about the cost of that responsibility. $500 in 8 months isn’t ridiculously high. I would go to a different vet and get a different opinion. I also don’t know why you’re not keeping the cat in a seperate room, you’re just letting your toddler and the sick cat with bloody poop intermingle? Your child is getting poop and what not on on him and it hasn’t crossed your mind to keep the Cat in a room so he can’t wander around and poop everywhere? 

I can imagine it’s a hassle but for me when you get an animal you’re responsible for them. He won’t get adopted again because of this issue he has. I would go look for a second opinion or pay the $700 to get an answer. 

Post # 111
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Busy bee
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I’m slightly surprised that the Bees overwhelmingly think someone who’s cleaning up a sick cat’s bloody poo out every day at the crack of dawn must be shamed for considering rehoming. Mind you, this is a young cat so OP can be looking at 18 years of this. People should maybe try dealing with cleaning bloody body fluids daily from random surfaces in a home with a toddler, then they can talk about it being “just” health issues. This isn’t like a joint disease or special diet needs (though the diet could be the problem). This is so much worse. I’ve dealt with a similar, but not as bad, problem when I was losing my pup to cancer, but unless you’ve been through this it’s kind of hard to imagine.

OP, I do hope you’re able to run one last round of tests. I’m not a vet, but quite a few of the previous posts it may be something easily fixable. And this cat may be pretty hard to adopt out, if he ends up at a kill shelter he’s as good as dead. If you do end up having to rehome, I hope there are no-kill shelters in your area.

Post # 112
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Sugar bee
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Just pay the $700 and tell your husband to go fuck himself if he has a problem with it. Why do you need your husband’s permission to take proper care care of your cat?! Ugh, that’s such a small bill too. 

Over the course of a 15+ year life, something will go wrong with your cat necessitating expensive veterinary care. Usually cats start having health problems around age 8 but it can happen anytime, just like with a human. In my experience an average non-preventative vet visit is $1600 for testing and treatment. 

Last year we spent $6000 on vet bills to keep my 13-year-old cat with a heart murmur alive. He still has great energy and loves life so we forked out the money and nursed him back to health. It was a painful thing to pay for unexpectedly, not gonna lie. But every cat is unique and precious and I wasn’t about to lose him unless it was really his time. 

Please don’t rehome your cat unless you have no option left. I took in a rehomed manx cat with bowel problems and he was my absolute favorite but forever broken. I had to give him kitty antidepressants and keep feliway diffusers in all of the rooms to deal with his severe anxiety that would make him literally soil himself in fear whenever all of the humans left the house at the same time. That wasn’t cheap either. 

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Buzzing Beekeeper
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bubbles00 :  id actually totally get it if there were no relatively cheap and easy solutions to the problem. If the vet said “sorry this is forever” then with a toddler and another little hopefully on the way id agree this is too much… But temporarily quarantining him to a smaller area so there isn’t bloody shit everywhere and paying a few hundred more, just aren’t that big a deal imo.  

I do think it’d be ridiculous to pay a vet $700 to redo tests she already paid $500 to do, just because they don’t want to read the previous vets medical files–ive transferred my dog’s medical files multiple times (she has quite an extensive medical history as you may guess from my previous post) and if a vet ever refused to read her medical history I’d bounce and find a new vet! 

Post # 115
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prism :  I’m really glad to hear that.  So often, there’s a medical solution to issues like this, and it just takes some diligence to figure out what it is.  Fingers crossed that kitty stays healthy and happy!

Post # 116
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prism :  Great news! Thank you for the update!!

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Buzzing Beekeeper
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prism :  Amazing update!!!!

Post # 118
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prism :  Thank you for updating!  Always best to start with the simplest solution and work your way up.  So glad the food switch worked for you! 🙂 

Post # 119
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prism :  yay! 

Post # 120
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prism :  so happy to hear this is working! I hope it continues to and that this stressful time is behind you all!

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