Post # 1
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Busy bee
So DH works for a big company in town where he holds a supervisor position.
One of the crew members asked DH a really strange question and I don’t know if it warrants any action. The guy asks DH to buy him a gun so he can take it to Mexico to sell and make money. Of course dH says no but who asks something like that? DH thinks the guy just doesn’t know how things work in the states.
Then yesterday DH and the guy were working together and had a project close by our home. DH forgot his phone and stopped at home to pick it up. When they got here the guy kept asking personal questions to my husband about who lives here, if any guys other than DH lives here, if our dog bites etc. The guy stayed in the truck the whole time so it wasn’t like he was worried about being bit. DH says the guy got really weird drilling him about our home and family until DH said “my whole family lives on this street, don’t worry about it” which shut the guy up. And apparentlt the guy was texting someone after each question he asked.
DH has me all concerned saying I need to keep all doors and windows locked and the tazer and a knife by the front door. At the same time though he says this guy just probably doesn’t get the social standards and laws of our country. Then again the guy also lives in a pretty rough neighborhood, but I don’t want to judge him for it.
Should I be concerned? Shoyld I do anything about him teying to get DH to smuggle guns? The people who work for DH are not societies finest but DH doesn’t do the hiring. I think he is going to talk to the owner but I don’t want us to go overboard if this guy honestly doesn’t know how we work in the states.
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
I’d be going to the police.
Admittedly, I live in the UK where we have exceedingly strict gun laws but I don’t think “not knowing how things work” in the US is a reason to say nothing. Is there any country in the world where gun smuggling is an acceptable, everyday pursuit that’s not illegal?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Steampunkbride: that’s what I was thinking and said to DH but he said he thought the guy was just that dense to think it was ok and apparently the guy didn’t know you had to register to buy a gun. It concerns me that someone dH doesn’t really know would ask somethinf like that. Imagine how many people are doing it! And we are in a small town!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Go to the police. Seriously. Now.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
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Mrslovebug: Even if your husband does not want to report his coworker for the gun thing, you should be very suspicious about all the questions he was asking about your home. (Though I wouldn’t leave my weapons next to the front door for an intruder to grab.)
Though it is very little for them to go on and they will likely not do anything yet, I would tell the police about the strange questions he was asking and your concerns about a potential break-in. Maybe even mention that he was asking about getting guns in the US and leave it at that. If you are in a small town, they are more likely to take you seriously/ talk to the guy than if you are in a large metropolis, but having this kind of complaint on record can be helpful down the line if he asks/threatens again.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
WTF is this thread? Get off WeddingBee and go to the police.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Mrslovebug: Yes- you should be worried. My DH is a LEO, and I asked him his thoughts. The cops can’t really do a whole lot if he hasn’t made a valid threat and if there isn’t anything documented.
However, I would def get some sort of alarm system in order immediately AND make sure you have plenty of self-protection (in the form of your own gun/guns). Any other weapon can too easily be used against you. And, if the intruder has a gun, you having a knife or a bat won’t be very helpful. DH is suggesting cameras in addition to a traditional motion type detection system. Also, please discuss a defense/exit strategy in the event that your DH is not home. Nothing is ever guaranteed to go as planned, but it’s good to have some sort of idea what you will do in that sort of an emergency (when you will normally be in panic mode and not thinking as clearly).
The gun episode in addition to the questions this guy was asking is a HUGE red flag. Please don’t allow your husband to overlook it.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I would have called the police by now but I don’t know the guys name. I asked DH if he was going to report it but he said he didn’t know if he should. He comes home for lunch in an hour and I willdiscuss the issue more thoroughly with him. Mybe reporting him will have the cops keep a close eye on him thus reducing the risk of
There may also be some serious criminal activity going on around him that could help the cops to figure it out. Maybe ill just make an annon call saying he may be smuggling guns, but DH may habe been the only one he asked and it wouldn’t be a surprise who called if that were true and I don’t want to tick this guy off when he knows where we live now. I’ve been considering getting a gun for a few years, maybe now is the time to do so vut how should I go about reporting all of this and keep my family safe? Irs just me and my two daughters at home alone every day
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Mrslovebug: The only thing the cops can do with the information you have (in my state) is talk to and warn him. Best case scenario is that they find a traffic violation or something to stop him for and find something illegal at that time. Even with proof of something (which you don’t have), it can be hard for cops to investigate something. So, you’re in a really difficult position, which is why I can’t stress “self protection” enough.
I would absolutely go to gun class to learn how to use one, get certified and purchase something that you are comfortable with. Especially now that you’ve stated that you have children to protect.
Nothing may ever come of this guy, but it’s one of those situations that you’d rather be safe than sorry.
Also, is this guy an illegal immigrant by any chance? Just curious if your husband may know, as that could potentially help you get the cops to investigate further.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Mrslovebug: fhe asked your husband to make a “straw purchase” which is a FELONY. Secondly, guns are illegal in Mexico, so, presuming he is from Mexico- even if he is unfamiliar with the laws of the US, he still knows what he is attempting to do is illegal. All that’s assuming he is even telling the truth about what he plans to do with the guns. He could also be planning to keep them in the US for people who are unable to legally acquire a firearm (ie convicted felons.) It’s possible his questions about your home were innocent curiosity, but I would make it clear to my husband that if he works with unsavory people, you do not, under any circumstances want them knowing where you live!
Post # 11
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Busy bee
PoliticallyIncorrect: This, exactly.
That is illegal on so many fronts and while the cops can’t do anything yet, I’d be majorly concerned. It is illegal in the US to buy a gun for someone who obviously can’t qualify on his own. Your DH was smart to shut that idea down.
This guy would have to be an idiot to think that the US (or Mexico!) wouldn’t have a problem with taking an illegally obtained gun across the border. Major red flag…
You might want to get a shotgun. Super easy to work and use, and frankly it’ll be a lot more useful against wackos than a taser, if God forbid, something happens.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
I’m pretty sure this guy is an illegal alien, our town is a farmers town and there are a lot for that reason. But do we still deport illegal aliens anymore? I wondered if it was a federal law or felony to try it seems like it should be. DH didn’t even realize he was showing this guy where we live until they were already here.we are never around people who are sketchy so he didn’t think twice about it until the questions really started. I will tell him though in the future to not let these guys see where we live. They all know about me and the girld as I have had to go to his work a few times. I’m pretty my girls are gorgeous and its written all over my face that I’m not intimidating. And they know I’m a sahm. Don’t want any possibilities
Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
already being suspicious of this guy, i would not have taken him to my house and shown him where i live. i’d be a little freaked out if my husband told me all this.
be safe.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
CoffeeBeanKate: I thought shot guns had a bad kick? I don’t know anything about guns but have considered them for a while. Even the kick on a BB gun bugs me, a real gun makes me think id get beat up in the process
Post # 15
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Busy bee
Mrslovebug: Oh my gosh! I am in a similar situation right now too, so I feel for you! It’s a bit scary. We haven’t lived in our neighborhood too long (it’s rural, so I use the term “neighborhood” loosely) and this sketchy couple have been stopping by under the guise of looking for work. They live nearby, and we know they do meth (it’s super obvious) and I googled the kid and found out he has a pretty length arrest record for theft. They came up and knocked on the door once and asked to come inside with my fiance and look at his guns. He was like, uhh…no. Go away. They have also stopped by to ask odd questions like “can we borrow your tractor”…again, no. We are pretty sure they are trying to figure out what we have of value and where we keep it.
I wouldn’t be as nervous except we are going out of town on a honeymoon soon! So, this was our plan, and if you can, you might want to talk some of this over with your fiance too – burglaries are waaay too common, and it seems like you have a pretty high risk right now. We got a monitored alarm system on all the windows and doors, and are going to get a safe for all the valuables while we are gone. The alarm came with a key fob that I am keeping handy, which has an emergency button that immediately calls the police. We don’t have kids, so we also keep a loaded gun and a knife in very accessible locations. (We will NOT leave them out when we are out of town, obviously.)
Knowing the gun is ready to fire and that the laws in my state protect me if I shoot at anyone entering this house has really done a lot to make me feel better about working from home. Definitely go to the shooting range and get some practice!