(Closed) DH won't go to the dentist and it's bugging me…

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 32
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Darling Husband didn’t go for nearly 9 years before I got insurance for him to go. Once he had braces taken off, he didnt take care of his teeth (although his mom never made him to begin with) so he’s been having lots of dental work done to help fix the damage that’s been caused. Try to make him go! Darling Husband didn’t really have a choice but didnt really complain since its pretty important. 

Post # 34
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I do the no kissing unless you brush your teeth – he used to only do it every couple of days. (mouthwash only… not as effective) After a lot of complaining about his pizza breath, and horrible morning breath, and a lot of his mini exasperation tantrums, he made it a habit.

I’m still working on the cleaning appointment. I’m super super OCD about my dental hygiene, and I also work at a vet clinic and have seen many ugly dentals, one of the doggies even had a stroke because of serious mouth infection. So I have started bringing home horror stories and pieces of plaque in sample bags. lol

I would absolutely rather get my teeth scraped and gums abused a bit, and a lecture on flossing (I usually just admit first thing that I know, sadly, that I’m no good at making flossing a habit and joke that that’s why I come in, so it reminds me to floss for a week or two!) than have teeth extracted and fillings and that. I’ve had too much expensive orthodontic work done on my teeth to let them rot! Plus they feel so amazingly clean for a few days after. 

Post # 35
10363 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I skipped the dentist for 8 years (basically all of college and grad school) because of $$ and still didn’t have any cavities or any other issues.

Just because you haven’t been to the dentist in a long time doesn’t mean your teeth are about to fall out!

Post # 36
3277 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


Sometimes men can be babies about seeing medical professionals. I will nag my husband until he makes an appointment, but I will NOT make the appointment for him.

I don’t care if he sees me as controlling. This is his HEALTH and I will risk being unpopular when it comes to that. I also refuse to be his mother and make appointments for him. 

Not seeing a dentist in 7 years is unhealthy and disgusting. I would tell your husband that you will stop kissing him until he gets a cleaning. Yuck! 

Post # 37
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Darling Husband had extended stays in hospitals a long time ago and since then hated doctors.. Before I met him he has not gone for any check up’s for years! 

But I told him if you don’t go to all your regular checkups, I won’t either and that got him! 

Post # 38
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lots of people don’t relish going to the Dentist… some people have an HUGE fear of them, either because of “stories” they’ve heard, or some bad past experience.

The truth is, just like anything else there are Good & Bad Dentists… be it “techniques”… or chair side manner

One kind of has to find someone that works with them and their personality.

The good news is that Dental Science is always evolving… so that there have been many many break-thrus in the last Decade or so.

And more and more Dentists now offer CHOICES when it comes to pain management… laughing gas for example is now quite widely available and a good choice for anyone who has a fear of needles or their side effects.

Hopefully you guys can find someone that “fits” with your Hubby’s personality and can alleviate his fears

Example:  I never had a fear of Dentists, but I always found that whenever I moved that finding a new Dentist was a huge PITA.  The last time that happened, I was happy to find a Dentist who now explains everything to me… I would have a hard time going back to a Dentist that just had me lay in the chair with my mouth open while they & the assistant went about their jobs / convos almost as if I wasn’t there.  I truly apprecitate the interaction… makes me feel far more comfy in what for many Patients is something that is well lets admit it not fun / easy to put off.  I don’t dread trips to the Dentist like I used to that is for sure… and I feel more “invested” in my Dental Health as part of a bigger team (Me – Dentist – Dental Asst – Dental Hygenist).


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