Post # 1
This past Sunday night I was trying to be spontaneous and pulled DH into our bedroom for a little sexy time and our dog (hes had her before we met) always follows him around the house. So of course when DH came in the bedroom our dog followed right after him. Not a big deal until I started pleasuring my husband when our dog was breathing in my face and trying to play with us. This has happened before and we’ll close the door on her and continue if she becomes bothersome. So I laughed and said “shall we close the door?” and DH’s immediate response was “I don’t want her to be alone.” Immediately this killed the mood for me but I tried to continue on anyways. Again, the dog was brearthing in my face and I couldn’t focus anymore. DH went looking for our cat so they could both be together in the living room. At that time I got up and just said let’s take a shower instead.
Neither him and I were in the mood anymore and nothing happened. I’ve been upset over it but tried to get over it. He’s been going through a lot lately and I figured it was a one time thing. So tonight DH joined me in the shower and I was not feeling it after what happened. This caused a fight because DH felt rejected even though I apologized and told him that what happened Sunday night was obviously still bothering me. I asked if in the future we need to have the dog in the bedroom and he said he felt bad leaving her in the living room. Now I feel like it’s not going to be a one time thing and he needs her there with us while we’re having sex? I know it sounds weird but that’s why I feel weird having sex with him now that I know this.
I dont even know what to do lol. I either look like the bad guy or have to deal with knowing that when it comes to sex he’ll choose her comfort over mine? I hope I don’t sound like an awful person lol. Just wondering if anyone has been in this situation.
Post # 3
@kryssbride That would bug me too. Especially if the dog was all up in my face!! I’m sure your husband will change his mind once a couple attempts go by and you can’t get in the mood because of the dog. Unless he’s so concerned about the dog being alone that it is just more important than your sex life… in which case he can go sleep in the living room with the dog as far as I’m concerned.
Post # 4
I agree to everything you just said lol. Thanks 🙂
Post # 5
Lol so he feels rejected and pouts but it’s ok to tell you hed rather not leave a dog alone than be intimate with you?? I mean… I love my dogs but come on… THEYRE DOGS
Post # 6
seriously!! I mean even if he’d rather call our dog his child then I still wouldn’t want my child watching us while we have sex lol
Post # 7
I love that your DH is such a good dog dad!
That dog will have to learn not to get in your way during sex, and she can stay.
Post # 8
Yeah that’s really weird that the dog gets in your face! It would make me uncomfortable! Our dogs are pretty cool actually and those poor things are so used to sexy time that they just lay down and mind their own business (omg we sound awful lol)…but it really stresses me out if we are having sexy time and the dogs are outside the door whining and wanting to come in the room. So I guess I’m the opposite of your situation. But I agree, either the dog needs to either learn to leave you guys alone if she stays in the room, or she needs to hang out in the living room for a little bit.
Post # 9
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Uhh i don’t like leaving our dogs either but not in a weird way! But if we close the door they’ll either be heavily breathing/ howling/ scratch the door which ruins the mood more than them just sleeping on the other side of the room. At first it would be weird but they don’t pay attention to us and leave us alone :p
Post # 10
This sucks and I personally would not be very happy. If your looking for a compromise, maybe ask if it will make him feel better if the dog gets a bone or treat in the living room while you guys are having sex. Yeah it sucks having to think about the dog when you are trying to get it on but it’s better than a wet nose in your face, or other areas if ya know what I mean. But DH definatly needs to think long and hard about what he cares more about: sex or making the dog happy. How the heck does act when he has to go to work and leave the dog all alone????
Post # 11
Isn’t the dog alone in the house at some point when you’re both not home? How is that any different.
This would make me very upset as well.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t ban the dog from the bedroom all the time, just when it is going to be sexy time. Your DH needs to understand that if he wants there to even be sexy time, for that to happen, the dog needs to be in the living room. I love my dogs, they are my babies, they both sleep on the bed with me, one will sleep under the covers with me, I smother them with kisses and lots and lots of cuddles, BUT when it comes for intimate time with Fiance, I shut the dogs out.
Post # 13
No socks and no dogs in the room – those are my rules. When I was in highschool my boyfriend and I were trying to be sneaky while having sex in my room of my parents’ house. My Golden Retriever pushed open the door and actually licked my boyfriend’s butt and balls while he was on top of me! Obviously my boyfriend freaked out and the mood was totally killed. We never opted to get busy at my house ever again and I’ve had a no dog in the room policy ever since. Maybe my parents knew what was going on and sent him in to stop it haha.
Post # 14
lol! Maybe that’s what needs to happen so my husband will understand what I’m trying to tell him haha.
exactly! sometimes our cat and dog will leave us alone and other times they think it’s play time. It’s never been a problem until he made that comment and now im kinda disturbed by it.
I dont know know how to get over it but I don’t feel like having sex any time soon.
Post # 15
lol I know what you mean. There have been times when it was ok to leave the pets outside the room and even though they do whine at least we can finish our business lol. This time just rubbed me the wrong way and I dont know how to bounce back from it.
Post # 16
Erm, maybe he can put the TV on for her if he’s THAT concerned about her feeling lonely? But it’s not like she’s going to be alone for hours on end… And I’m sure she’s alone at some point during the day. So that’s weird of your DH, haha.
I totally understand how you feel, though. If the cats are getting up in our business, I HAVE TO kick them out. It’s just weird. Even being watched feels weird. We joke that one of our kitties is a pervert, because after every time we’re done, I look over and he’s usually there staring at us. He’s usually also very enthusiastic about coming over for pets… I don’t like it, hah.