DH working 80 hours a week?

posted 4 months ago in Career
Post # 2
9868 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I guess the three options are:

1. Stand firm, tell his boss no. Risk losing the job.

2. Give in and pray he finds another job before the strain of this one truly becomes too much.

3. Quit and find a new job while surviving off just your income.

Unless, you absolutely cannot live without his income I would go with option 1. He can’t just keep saying yes and the asks have gotten completely unreasonable. 

Post # 4
5123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

honeybee26 :  have him go to his doctor for stress leave. He should take 3 days off due to stress and then come back and say no to 4am starting time and Sundays. Don’t you have labor laws where you live? Can you speak to someone at your labor office?

Post # 5
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

This is outrageous. If the project is in as much trouble as stated, I seriously doubt your H would get fired for refusing these ridiculous hours. Then his manager would be in an even worse situation. His manager didn’t do his job and is now using his staff to cover his ass. All he cares about is not losing his job. Does his manager’s boss know about these outrageous hours?

Post # 8
2738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

honeybee26 :  Hi Bee! I’m sorry your husband is going through this. My husband’s last job had him working 80 hour weeks for 2 1/2 years so I totally understand! 

First of all, I would make sure your husband is keeping track of his hours. I know he’s salaried but you’ll need that if any legal action has to take place. Second, I would absolutely follow up with the labor office and try to plead a case. Especially if your husband isn’t executive level, he has more of a leg to stand on. 

I also wanted to add that once my husband left his old job our lives improved drastically. He used to be stressed all the time, always tired and we hardly had time to do anything. Now, he has weekends off and we are so much happier. I know you have to be in the right spot to make it happen, but sometimes the money isn’t worth it. 

I don’t mean to sound old fashioned, but I think it really helps if you take care of as much of the housework as possible. When my husband worked that much, I did all of the housework except the litter box. Cooked, cleaned, meal prepped, laundry, shopping, etc. If my husband would have had to do any of that he probably would have lost his mind. It was the least I could do to make his life a little easier so he could just relax when he got home. 

Post # 9
5575 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

He’s working these hours SALARIED? Oh hell no. I’ll do ten hour days a few times a month, maybe work Saturdays.

He’s not even getting overtime for this.

Definitely keep looking for another job, and I like pps idea of going to his dr for some medical time off. I don’t know the laws of looking for another job if you are on leave though.

Post # 10
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

that would be a NO for me.

I dont believe in killing yourself for a job, id rather live in a box and be happy than waste my life chasing a penny but not everyone thinks like me, I know my partner works 55 hours a week (15 on overtime pay) and its too much and hes even had to mention it to his boss that he needs more money and less hours or he will have to look elsewhere so I couldnt imagine 80 hours.

Post # 11
3932 posts
Honey bee

Is he doing a job that is typically hourly? It sounds like he is not doing his management job, but manufacturing? If this is the case, he may actually be required to be re-classified under FLSA to an hourly, nonexempt employee, and therefore receive overtime. Remember, if he does refuse these hours and gets fired, he would likely be qualified for unemployment while he looks for something else. What they’re doing is digusting.

Post # 12
8968 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

whitums :  Yep. 

honeybee26 :  Look up the requirements for exempt vs non-exempt work, and compare them to what your husband is actually doing. Not his title, but the work that he does. If he’s doing work that is not exempt from OT pay, that is a legitimate complaint that comes with protection from retaliation.

Post # 13
1067 posts
Bumble bee

Hi bee. You didn’t indicate whether you are in the US or not.

But as other PPs have posted, if you are in the US, although managers are generally exempt from overtime comp under state and federal wage and hour laws (hence the “exempt” designation), it is job duties and not job titles that determine whether or not an employee is truly exempt from OT. Your Darling Husband should examine his day-to-day duties – especially now working on this project – and determine whether he is now spending a majority of his time managing others or performing the same tasks as those he supervises. Managerial job categories include: customarily and regularly directing the work of others, customarily and regularly exercising discretionary power, the authority to hire and fire, the ability to make comments and suggestions about personnel matter than are given weight by the employer, etc. It also matters how much of his time is spent on performing the “managerial” tasks – in some jurisdictions, if an employee spends only 1/2 his time in a managerial role and the other half performing the same duties as those he supervises, the employee may lose exempt status.

You should look up your specific state laws for guidance on this determination. Additionally, there is also a salary threshold to be considered exempt (which was just increased under the FLSA). Just because he has been classified as exempt does not mean that his status cannot change. 

And yes, there is protection from retaliation under US labor laws if your Darling Husband complains and the employer takes some adverse employment action against him.

Good luck.

Post # 14
51 posts
Worker bee

That seems to me like it should be illegal, or at a minimum merit a conversation with a lawyer about his legal rights when he’s not being offered OT.  

Post # 15
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

We’re going through the same thing with my husband. His manager decides whether he works even an entire day without a break or not. They call whenever, no matter in the morning, midnight, weekend etc. On top on working insanely long hours as an engineer at heavy industry like a slave, they don’t pay for extra hours at all.

So, we contacted the government but there’s nothing yet. He’s planning to endure only a tiny bit more to pay our debt but both of us are badly affected by this situation. 

My sympathies go to you here. 

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